A Message to the Broken Hearted

I know what you’re going through. As a matter of fact, there are a lot of people out there who know exactly how you feel. You’ve been dumped, perhaps by your love-to-end-all-loves. The one person that always seemed to be there, the one you could call your own, has left you broken and confused. Maybe you feel completely devastated, fearing that you won’t know how to adjust without them there. Depending on the circumstances, you could be filled with the most frightening of angers. Perhaps you are simply numb, unable to fully face the reality of your heart break.

Where ever you fall on the spectrum of emotion, we both know that it is a terrible feeling. To taste the sweet kiss of love and then have it ripped away so suddenly is a tragedy, one that scars the heart and shatters the soul. No person should ever have to go through pain that great, but the depressing truth of it all is that it needs to happen, and it will happen with at least some frequency should you continue to put yourself out there. It is difficult to be optimistic about love at such a time, and the desire to just throw in the towel and call it quits is without doubt at its strongest right now.

Do not be fooled, however, by this most deceitful trick life has played on you. Your heart may be broken into a thousand pieces, your body may cry out for the arms of your beloved and you very essence may ache from all the pain, but you cannot give up hope! Hope is the most important thing you can hold on to at a time like this! I, along with probably everyone else who reads this, can tell you that without hope, you are nothing. I know it is difficult, but I can also tell you that if you can have hope that things will get better, they probably will.

Yes, this is probably the greatest pain you have ever felt. So cry and be sad for a while. No one can tell you to simply get over it, and no one can put on a time limit on your grief. If you are sad, then be sad! But do not let it consume you. It is all right to mourn the loss of a love, but if we let it throw us into a downward spiral depression and negative thoughts, then we have been bested. Think about what you have lost, keep a journal of your feelings, listen to the most depressing music you can find, do whatever you need to do to help you get over it, but do not become a shell of yourself while you do! Make sure you go outside and look at the sky every once in a while and recognize that there are plenty of things to be thankful for and you are surrounded by them.