Allowing Your Heart to Beat Once More

It happens to all of us—you are moving along in a relationship and bam you get hit head on with heart break.  It feels like your whole world collapsed right under your feet.  Emotions pour in with hurricane forced winds.  It is hard to breathe and your chest hurts so bad you think you are going to have a heart attack.  The world becomes cold and dark and loneliness creeps up and is tormenting.  Just getting up in the morning and facing a new day seems too hard to bear.  You feel like the shell of the person you once were, empty and dark inside.  The pain is excruciating and paralyzing. 

If you are feeling this now or have ever felt this then we have something in common.  You can know that others have felt this too, and take refuge in the fact that all though it feels like you can’t go on, others have, and you can too.

We have all heard the old cliché, “time heals all wounds”. Yeah, yeah! Time might heal but who has the time, I’m dying now, “right”! I understand that thinking way more than I want too.  I’ve been there and it—well—sucks pretty damn hard!

The loss of someone we love is a death for all purpose sake.  The relationship died, the other part of you died, your way of life died.  Death!  But, we are still alive and the earth is still rotating, the sun rises and sets, and life goes on. So how the heck do we start living when we feel lifeless?  I can only tell you it isn’t easy, but it can be done, but it is going to take some work.

The first question we ask ourselves after a loved one leaves us is—why?  We want to know why and we will do everything we can to find out why.  The fact is we will never really know why, no matter how hard we try.  So answer your own question—why?  Because the person we were in love with doesn’t want to be with us anymore.  No matter what the reason or reasons the FACT is the relationship is over and there really isn’t anything that can change it.  Why? Because it is!