Anxiety and Stress: Dealing with The Problem When Having Sex with Someone New!

Take your time, slow down!

Unless it’s a wham, bam, thank you ma’m, and you don’t plan on seeing the girl again, then by all means skip this whole step! If you actually like the girl, and plan on seeing the girl again you should slow the fuck down, and take the experience one step at a time. Don’t rush her into sex nor expect it if you get invited at their place, instead try a little romance to set the mood. If sex does end up on the menu then you must ensure that both of you are enjoying the experience equally! Having sex with someone new requires communication. What worked for an ex would not necessarily work with your new partner. I’ve been with many girls and I know that each is different in what they like. So work up to intercourse by setting the mood, ensuring privacy, explore each other’s bodies, and enjoy foreplay as it will allow for you to find out what makes your girl go off! Don’t expect anything spectacular from this first sexual experience with your new partner, it will only get better with time! Ask your girl if she enjoys what you’re doing, if you’re a relatively experienced guy when it comes to sex, as I am, you will know when the girl is enjoying it. So will the soaking bed sheets, lounge, carpet, dining table…! If you’re over conscious about your body, or if your girl is, then turning the lights down could be an option. I personally can’t have sex in the dark, so I have at least a dim light in the room! So there you go, don’t rush the whole experience, ensure you have gradual and enjoyable foreplay, ensure your girl gets the full treatment, don’t be greedy in bed, and enjoy the whole experience!

After having sex with your new partner for the first time….

Put all of your attention on your partner. Lying in bed and holding her close, as you drift asleep makes her feel wanted, and needed. It would make her feel safe and respected. Take a light hearted approach to the first experience, and lighten up. Remember that your performance does not end with pulling your dick out. It ends when you leave to go home, or when she leaves your place to go home. Everything that happens up until then is part of the whole ‘experience’! If you make her feel loved, and respected, then chances are she will want to see you again. But if you haven’t covered all of your bases, and ensured she had the royal treatment, so to speak, then chances are she will move on to somebody who will do just that! So make her laugh, make her feel like a princess, and make her feel appreciated! If you do, then there may be a second and third run…maybe many more! Stay confident, communicate, help build a fun and comfortable atmosphere, ensure you take it slow and pay attention to her body language, and reactions to your actions, give it your 100%, and ensure you maintain an atmosphere that will draw her to you for a second serving!

Other than the above there aren’t any set rules as to what goes, as its all down to the people and their experience itself. Take control of your emotions, put anxiety at bay, and make the experience evolve naturally.