Appreciating Your Life and The People in It That Matter!
by My thoughts on stepping back and learning to appreciate all that you have in life -why waste time feeling guilty about people you haven’t seen for a while?Find your network and stay connected, life is far too short to dwell on the negatives.
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How do you get the troubles and pressures in your life into some kind of perspective?
For me, it’s not always as simple as looking at things from the ‘other people are worse off than me’ point of view. While this maybe true, this actually can play negatively on some of your emotions.
You may actually end up feeling guilty that while you’ve got a good life and plenty going for you yet you don’t appreciate it properly and you ’should ‘ you ‘ought’ to feel better than you actually do.
I believe the way to look at things positively is to think instead ‘this is what I’ve got’ . Maybe a Beautiful baby boy/ girl, your partner, all of your close family and friends, good career prospects / maybe even something you really enjoy doing – and I’m sure the more you think about it the better you’ll feel. This is the life that you’ve built, it’s unique, so just believe in it.
But of course our feelings and moods change sometimes on a daily basis, of course sometimes things get on top of us, but that’s only really if you let them.
The external world is never going to get any less complicated, or stop throwing up unwelcome surprises from time to time, but my anchors in this world are what keep me going forward, and I’m sure it’s the same for you.
~~~What’s important to me~~~~
In my life, my wife and little boy mean the absolute world to me. My dear late Dad for all his ways is very much a part of me, my sister who’s been through much more than me is always inspiring (and still constantly laughs at my feeble comedy attempts). I think about my Mum almost every single day but I also draw huge comfort from having a brilliant caring mother-in-law, who did everything she could and more to bring up my wife securely despite losing her husband 20 years ago.
There’s a whole new generation in my family now, with my step sister who’s a credit to her mum and my half-brother. My brother died when I was only 4 so it just seems incredible to me to get another brother 24 years later, and when I see the little bloke trying on my size 46 shoes and shuffling around in them it does bring a tear to my eye.
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Post Commentdrelayaraja
On November 12, 2009 at 11:02 pm
Great article. Well written. It is the positive attitude that keeps us going.
Louie Jerome
On November 13, 2009 at 5:44 am
A great read. Appreciating what you have is what makes life worth living!
Authoress Terry E. Lyle
On November 17, 2009 at 10:33 pm
Appreciate the ability to share yourself with someone else. Good article. Thanks for sharing.
Authoress Terry E. Lyle
On November 17, 2009 at 10:34 pm
Appreciate the ability to share yourself with someone else. Good article.
PhoenixRox
On November 26, 2009 at 12:31 am
Bang on! I agree with you. I used to be the ‘other people are worse off than me’ gal, and now I am the ‘I have this’ person. No comparisons, just being happy with what I have. And yes, staying connected with loved ones is my strength too.. no matter what good friends and fam are always there
God bless!
Themax
On November 27, 2009 at 11:59 am
That’s beautiful and very well written thanks
Tanya Wallace
On November 27, 2009 at 6:19 pm
This is so very true! You should apreciate everything you have in life, including your health! Unfortunately many fail to realize what they have until its too late. Very wonderful write,thought provoking and inspiring!
BullwinkleMuse
On December 6, 2009 at 11:58 am
Thanks for this uplifting piece. Good to see you writing again!
Citra Florenca
On December 9, 2009 at 4:01 am
Very inspiring!
V rank
On December 24, 2009 at 3:50 am
wow, this is very poignant… I can’t help myself but read it again… very timely with the season…
thuanynguyen
On December 30, 2009 at 3:13 am
Amazing article, very well written.
Mila Marcos
On December 30, 2009 at 12:42 pm
A very thoughtful and inspiring read Magicdarts:) I think people tend to take life too seriously. I laugh alot – it makes me feel connected with the rest of the human race, dosen’t matter who it is, I like sharing a positive moment in a world that most of the time looks pretty depressing:)
Inna Tysoe
On January 1, 2010 at 1:16 am
You’re absolutely right.
Thank you for writing that.
Inna
Starpisces
On January 1, 2010 at 7:07 am
I should have read this much earlier as it is very inspiring. In 2009, I have many bad encounter and met people who were really hyprocrites. I dwelled on them a lot and got depressed. I told myself I must forget about those unpleaseant encounters and forget about those unworthy people who I should “drag to the trash”, instead to appreciate those who are good to me and cherish what I have. I shall change my mindset with effect from the first day of 2010. It is good to learn from people like you, who are so positive and contented with life, and appreciative to others.
Thumbs up!
simplyoj
On January 2, 2010 at 8:01 am
thank you for sharing a part of your soul and bringing it to us. God bless you and your family always.
Gail Nobles
On January 9, 2010 at 8:12 pm
You wrote from the heart. Great article. Great writing.
standingproud
On January 11, 2010 at 6:20 am
I am right into positivity
good food for the mind.
And always moving ahead,we just must…
I think this read was very apt and well done thank you
PR Mace
On January 11, 2010 at 10:18 am
You have such a wonderful outlook on life. I will have to read from you after I sleep awhile.
athena goodlight
On January 12, 2010 at 11:17 pm
You have a very good outlook in life. We just have to be thankful of what we have, even if we’re stripped off to our very basics, what will be left and who will be at our sides during that time would very much determine who and what we will really need in life. They matter most and deserve our attention the most.
Thanks for this inspiring write up.
Karen Gross
On January 14, 2010 at 3:07 am
You have discovered the real secret of happiness – being content with what you have and having a great perspective on life, and what’s really important to you.Think about who is going to be at your funeral someday. Your boss? Not likely, unless our last progress report is incomplete;)
Your family and friends will be at your funeral, so make sure you are nice to them. If you get sick, they will be the ones taking care of you, maybe even changing your diapers, so make sure you are really nice to them now.
lillyrose
On January 14, 2010 at 11:59 am
Really great article! I can remember when I had very bad post natal depression after my 2nd child was born and one of my friends started preaching to me about a woman in India who swam over a raging sea to be with her children. Now I know I should have felt that she was worse off than me but I didn’t. You are right, my friend just made me feel guilt, which my head doctor told me I had to ban from my life. I do try now to think positively but it’s hard sometimes.
Tmrobotix
On January 19, 2010 at 2:57 pm
So true! You’re not only a gifted writer but also one with life experience!
Sashya
On January 20, 2010 at 8:43 pm
This is a very good article. Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing!
speckledlily
On January 22, 2010 at 2:03 am
It’s our choice, it’s our decision on how to carry on our journey called life.
simplyoj
On January 23, 2010 at 7:28 am
revisiting, magicdarts!
Lily
On February 1, 2010 at 9:24 am
Great!! Very inspiring & Absolutely Accurate! I agree & respect you very much.Appreciate & we must thankful for whatever we have. What i read in this article i know very much, you’re a good person,very positive person, even i don’t know you & this is the first time i read your article.I know from now on………i will read all of your article.For me,like you, first of all my fam. of course then my friends. My fam. my friends, plenty of friends here & there & were keeping completely even they miles away from me & so happy to know that all of your fam. & friends always stayed at your side for better or for worst.
Tnxs 4sharing this Great Article! Take care always & may the blessing of beloved Almighty God be w/u, ur fam. & friends.
deep blue
On March 31, 2010 at 4:20 am
Great insights about life.