Comments on: Are You a Control Freak?

By: ellen

ellen — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 14:49:32 +0000

Wish I’d read these articles earlier,my CF partner and I have just purchased a property together,what a big mistake! I am tied to him for quite some time now.He goes around bad mouthing me to family and friends constantly accuses me of playing around behind his back(I don’t even acknowledge other men) and teases and bad mouths my children.Problem is he takes anti-depressant meds that he’s inconsistant with that set off his mood swings.I am critisized and blamed for everything,its my fault his CF daughter won’t speak to him,I’m lazy,I waste money bla bla bla bla! the list goes on.I’m reasonably attractive and quite younger,although to him my hair is a mess,I’m putting on the weight(still slim)I dress like a slob? even though his CF sister is 23yrs my senior (she 70),look how attractive my sister is.He sees a psych once a month because he suffers PTSD,but apparently its me who should be seeing one,because he tells everyone that I’m the one with the problem.As many times as I’ve tried to walk out, he always calls me and tells me his life would be nothing without me,so the sucker(me) always goes back to him,soon there will be no escape as we have to go through with the house contract,it is also in my name.He tried to force me to sign legal documents that would go in his favor if the relationship were to dissolve,I told him to stick his papers were the ’sun doesn’t shine’ and that I had someone else willing to take over his part of the house contract(in which I do)he soon backed down.CF’s are very underhanded and calculating people,if they can’t get there own way with mental abuse they physically abuse.Alcohol and meds do not mix,every night the same senario what miserable creatures they really are.I never get any attention off him, he can’t even look me in the eye, when the opposite sex is around he pretends that he doesn’t know me,the tides will soon be turning,I am growing stronger every day,he can’t upset me any more,when he now yells out falsehoods(for gossipy neighbors & rellies) I now yell out something belittling about his ‘manlihood’ (the yelling has now stopped?),don’t argue with them you’ll never have a say its important to stay one step ahead of them,never give into them and beat them at there own game.

By: Great White

Great White — Sat, 01 Jan 2011 02:33:59 +0000

@Jetfire – Yes – my ex goes around telling anyone that will listen that I am the one trying to control him. It is very sad, the man has lost two woman he loved, a son and a daughter. Hm so I am very worried for my 5 yr. old son – yes I had a son with this man and have paid for what he calls MY mistake – I GOT myself pregnant….etc. Now everytime I speak to him he rattles off on what a bad mother I am – what a mean person I am to him ( all I ever offered was love ) He even has his new girlfriend attacking me verbally. I feel 100% better after reading a few of these articles but I am worried about my son now. His children from another women will not even let him see his grandchildren.
Long story about age differences – I knew what he told me was not true but I could never understand what I did that made him so angry towards me – now I know. I have been so stressed out about this because I really loved this man. But if you asked anyone in his family I am the one doing all these things to him, not him doing them to me. So the answer is yes they do.

By: Nervous

Nervous — Wed, 22 Dec 2010 07:59:56 +0000

Yo I couldn’t even get past the first page. First, you spelled “Psychologists” wrong, which is an easy mistake, understandable. Then you go to say that being a control freak is some form of OCD? Obviously you know less about psychology than… at least me. Being a control freak would fall under Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder, which, despite the name, is not at all related to OCD. I’d wager there are 5-10 more mistakes if I bother reading the rest of your crap. But I’d rather just arrogantly assume than waist the time reading your misinformed internet trash.

By: Tilla

Tilla — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 15:06:00 +0000

I just heard today that I am a controlled freak, although I have a really good relationship with my 2 girls. But know I realise why I get grumpy over bedrooms that not tidy at all times. When somebody using my kitchen, it must be spotless afterwards.Always interfere with husbands business, the way I would have done it. Newspaper next to the bed. Invoices in the house. It freaks me out. Everything must be in place all the time, in the house, garden and business. I need help.
I`ve got the most wonderful husband and children, that exept me just the way I am. I want to be a woman that Gods want me to be for my husband and children. WHAT CAN I DO?

By: Eddicus

Eddicus — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 21:25:25 +0000

This article is plagiarized from the work of a real Doctor. See the link below:

http://www.ec-online.net/knowledge/articles/control.html

For shame, unwrittenfate.

Changing a few words doesn’t make someone else’s work your own.

By: Jet Fire

Jet Fire — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 23:06:31 +0000

Would anyone happen to know if a controlling person will emotionally project onto you, that you are the one doing the controlling?

By: Kitten

Kitten — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 19:05:10 +0000

I have a mom with this wonderful personality trait. I got tired of wasting my energy defending why I do things different from what she does. I broke all ties I can\’t stand it. If you don\’t like what she likes or live like she does she makes your life miserble. I had her over my new house and I am on a tight budget. She lives with my brother and has two incomes she nick picked every thing I did different. I explained why I had to hang clothes on the line or not eat out every week and she made a commment every day. My brother puts up with her lets her run the house. I work very hard for my house and don\’t want it invaded by my mother. I broke off ties I got tired of her screaming at me. I feel bad she is my mom, but I just can\’t take it everyday the comments the nick picking. Why don\’t she accept how I live and move on. I had to divorce my mom. I love her and wish her the best.

By: George

George — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 20:10:21 +0000

Wow. Sister-in-law is Type 2. We’ve just had a major break-off. I don’t know who won and I don’t care. I’ve been visiting every weekend for over 12 years, just a quick stop-by of 10 minutes or so, say hi, pick up a niece or nephew (whom I don’t see or hear from if I don’t come by) for the day if she had other plans — she’s always eager to push them out the door BUT each visit it seems, a new restriction is put on — don’t come before this time, don’t come after that time, don’t talk about this subject, don’t take the kids here or there, don’t let them eat this or that, get clothes dirty, get shoes dirty, touch any animals, get wet, talk to this person or that. Now, it’s what I’m wearing when I come over, if I’m bringing my dog of many years (as I’ve always done). I’ve said point-blank, if you don’t want me to visit, say so. No, no, no. You’re always welcome BUT…So I give up. I’m not coming over. She can keep it up until her kids leave her, too. The oldest will be driving in less than a year and he’s already said he can’t wait to get out from under her thumb. She has no friends, her family doesn’t call her. She holds the kids as emotional hostage. Well, I didn’t pick their mother. They’ll have to survive as best they can or call me directly. I’m not walking into the buzz saw anymore.

By: My "DAD" one!! Hate it!!

My "DAD" one!! Hate it!! — Fri, 28 May 2010 10:35:57 +0000

I have a control Freak for a “FATHER” I hate it I cant stand my Life. He trys to control everything I say, do, eat, act. The Way I walk, talk, dress I mean Like EVERYTHING!!! I hate him I mean that With every bone in my body!!!! I Dont feel Bad for him at ALLLL!!!! He makes every thing in my familys life terrible!!!
I would like to thank the person who wrote this artical though.
You did give me some peace of mind lol!

But i still wonder Giving in mean that we have to do everything he says. Please say Nooooo!!!

By: Barry Interisano

Barry Interisano — Fri, 21 May 2010 02:27:05 +0000

You need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!