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Avoid a Toxic Friendship

Reasons why you should avoid the overly dramatic friend whose life seems as if it’s a soap opera.

We’re not just talking about Britney Spears “Toxic,” I mean a friendship that stresses you out more than having a fight with your significant other. Definition of a toxic friend-one that drags themselves into the most impossible situations and wants you to go on the bumpy ride with them.

How to Tell if Your Friend is Toxic

There is always some huge situation that seems as if it belongs on Jerry Springer. They found out that their boyfriend/girlfriend is dating their step-father; they were abducted by aliens; someone always steals all of the money in their account; etc. If there is more than one instance of an outrageous situation, your friend is toxic.

How The Person Affects You

You’re always taking them some place, taking out a loan for them, bailing them out of jail-doing anything that disrupts your everyday life and bank account. Toxic friends rarely have any other friends or family besides you, and they are sure to give you a sob story on this. You are their only hope in this world, and if it wasn’t for you they wouldn’t have any help. So you find yourself doing things that you don’t have time or money for to help your “friend.”

Why You Should Run Away

Toxic friends are sometimes fun and exciting-there’s always something going on in their lives that break you away from your own life. That’s where the problem lies, you have no time for yourself to enjoy anything because they are needy and dragging you into every dramatic situation in their life. It’s one thing to listen to your friends problems, but if you begin to participate in the trips to jail, stakeout at their ex’s, and/or any other ridiculous it’s good to get away for your own sake.

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  1. ranfuchs

    On January 25, 2008 at 3:37 am

    so what is a friend? Is it someone you can just dump if it doesn’t fit your life?

  2. dan

    On January 27, 2008 at 10:41 am

    No, a friend is someone who reciprocates friendship. If “toxic” friends only live for their own problems, how can they be a real friend?

  3. Alana

    On March 25, 2008 at 5:38 am

    Ive had friends in my life who always made me feel bad about myself, and made me do things that i didn’t want to. I completely agree that you don’t need friends in your life who bring out the worst in you… even if its not fair.

    Alana Andrews :)

  4. Shames

    On May 7, 2008 at 12:24 pm

    I feel that friends who bring out the worst in you are not friends. Great article,Jill.

  5. claire

    On July 1, 2008 at 11:03 am

    I had a toxic friend who’s family had disowned her. She had no friends and also lost her mother early on in our friendship. I felt that guilty and sorry for her I let it drag on for 3 years. When I ended the friendship she turned on me to the point of nastiness I have never experienced from anyone – there’s a warning for y’all.

  6. Kathleen

    On August 4, 2008 at 4:26 pm

    When I got sober, I could see the light and realized my best friend was toxic. Something my family and other friends already could see.

    I mean who tells someone newly sober they can trade their AA sobrierty medilians at such and such bar for a drink? Talk about toxic!

    As long as I was around drinking with her, she could point her finger at me and say “look, I’m not as bad as she is”. In reality, she was worse. Now I can see the light…
    Who needs it!

  7. CoCoa Black

    On November 29, 2008 at 6:55 pm

    Toxic friends come in many different ways. Mothers, Fathers, Siblings, all kinds.

    I really think I could learn From you. You have such in site on thing most woman all over the world have a problem comprehending.

    I hope to hear from you soon.

    P.S. Brains and beauty, Don’t you hurt nobody. you go girl.

    Thanks For You Time.

    CoCoa Black
    CoCoa Black

  8. Ken Sack

    On May 3, 2009 at 7:30 am

    The purpose of friendships is trade. The purpose of trade is profit. If there is no profit, dump that person – and forget the emotions. If you think long and hard, the emotions aren\’t justified, they are based on an illusion – not seeing the person for who they really are.

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