Be Popular or Do What YOU Would Like to Do?
by Trying so hard to “fit in” with those people you consider to be important? When are you going to accept yourself for who you really are?
As with anything else, there’s always exceptions to every rule. Popularity won’t help very much when you’re dealing with friendships and relatives. Being the boss’s high school friend will often override job knowledge and commonsense: as far as relatives go, just forget advancement if the company is family-owned because the idiot cousin who can’t keep two ten dollar bills in the same wallet for longer than five minutes will surely be placed in charge of the company funds before they’ll trust YOU…a stranger!
So my question to you is this…Why are you being a slave to Popularity? WHY AREN’T YOU WITH THOSE WHO WILL ACCEPT YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE? Is it because they’re not a lawyer and you became one? Is it because you want to make over a hundred thousand dollars a year and the type of people you fit in with couldn’t make fifty dollars on a good day? Is it because you are ‘gifted’ in home decorating and need to blend in with those who do the hiring of people like you? Is it because the people you feel the most comfortable with may be honest and hardworking but don’t look the part? (Tattoos and beards as well as wearing leather is still a stereo-type of the ‘bad guy’ even now in the 21st century!).
Whatever the reason, I am certain that you will never be truly happy until you accept who you are, what you like to do, and then be around the kind of people who like doing these same things! If you love to be around people who go to the opera or to art museums, then go there, too! If you love going to church, then go there!If you love being around horses, then find a barn, farm, ranch, or riding stable and get involved! Enjoy motorcycles? Then ride! Love to paint but can’t draw a straight line? Then take a course in beginner art.
The bottom line is this: when you do the things that make you smile, you will get better at them and possibly find employment in a field of work you never imagined possible. But the only way you’ll ever find a job that involves doing what you love to do is to first do that which you love! The job will find you, even if it’s a self-employment type of job…and the person who has a job that he or she loves will never work a day in his or her life!
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Post Commentbrianberu
On May 10, 2009 at 8:32 am
All too true, when we learn to be ourselves, rather than what others expect us to be, then we find ourselves, and we also find true freinds, not just people who hang around just because it is cool to do so.
Nice to read you again, have you been on vacation?
Christine Ramsay
On May 10, 2009 at 9:08 am
I agree with you and with brianberu. I must say I have never been a one for being with the ‘in crowd’. It is too much like hard work. I say be yourself and quite often others will come to you. Another very good and well written piece.
Christine
M J katz
On May 10, 2009 at 10:36 am
Hi Brianberu! I agree! If a person is to find real friends, that person has to be true to himself/herself first!:)
No…I wasn’t on vacation though I wish I could win the Lottery and take a nice long one!^-^ I just have a work schedule that doesn’t mesh too well with my available writing hours! Triond must have thought I left, too, because I received an automated email from them asking me if everything was alright! Ha ha!
Hi Christine! Thank you…it seems too much like hard work to me, too! Lol.
I hope that everyone who sees this will check out your latest reads because they are definitely worth checking out…Triond must think so, too!! ^-^ Congratulations because you definitely deserve the recognition!!:)
Talk about hard work…did you notice that you are one of our Hot Users now?!! Your articles have hit the Hot Topic List, and rightfully so, too!!!!!
Glynis Smy
On May 10, 2009 at 1:27 pm
I tried the ‘in’ crowd but it was hard work. I am me, no apologies for that LOL
Interesting article.
Daisy Peasblossom
On May 10, 2009 at 1:32 pm
Glad to see you back, M J. Hadn’t seen a post for a while. For happiness, being yourself is best. Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately) in order to rub along with others, we do have to make a few social concessions. I’m doing some of what I want to do; I’ve learned a lot about redirecting the topic and smiling and saying “I understand” a lot. It gets you out of the “yes” bit.
M J katz
On May 11, 2009 at 9:11 am
Hi Glynis! I agree with you…I like being me. I know I’m not perfect but the other way is a lot of unnecessary hard work that actually gets one nowhere!
Hi Daisy! Yes, so true…sometimes concessions have to be made in order to get along with others. I just don’t want to ever lose the “me” part of me. When I have to make so many concessions that I feel like I’m getting lost in the shuffle, it’s time for me to leave!
nobert soloria bermosa
On May 13, 2009 at 2:33 am
i prefer to stick to my principles and be who I am rather than being “in crowd” but against my will because I am not a good pretender
M J katz
On May 14, 2009 at 7:08 pm
Hi Nobert! Yes, I know what you mean…I’m not much good at being a “pretender” either! Like Glynis said, it’s hard work!
swatilohani
On May 15, 2009 at 7:06 am
nice article
M J katz
On May 15, 2009 at 11:42 pm
Hi swatilohani! It’s nice to hear from you! Thank you for your support!