Coach Your Values

Values are the core of our identity and drive our beliefs. They are the things we hold most dear. They represent what we stand for, what we will stand for, and what we won’t stand for. They’re the basis from which we live and work. Some are more conscious to us than others. If you wonder what your values are, look at how you spend your time, doing what, and with whom. Then look at how you spend your money. Your values may be different to what you had assumed or acknowledged consciously.

Core beliefs are built over time, based on the values we choose, adopt and adapt in life. Values and core beliefs come from our background, upbringing, family, friends and experiences, and affect the decisions and choices we make. We have freedom to make different choices, and the opportunity to change our minds as our needs change. If you change your mind and thinking, you inevitably change your perspective and your life. If aspects of life don’t work for you at present, or you have some repeating issues, then you need to go back to your choices, and the values that underpin those choices.

We all have values, but we don’t always know what they are. What are the foundations which give your life meaning, structure and purpose? Work your way around the cyclical diagram to consider how you are driven and motivated, and maybe even controlled, by what you’ve taken on as core beliefs and values.

Think of a few examples to work around this cycle. For example, if you avoid risks, did that come from a parent telling you not to climb a tree in case you fall? Or does your limiting yourself come from someone denting your self-confidence? However, it’s never too late to challenge and change some of those deep-seated core beliefs – otherwise they can seriously hold you back.

On the other hand, how have the values you inherited from your parents and grandparents stood you in good stead? How have they given you courage, determination and success? So hang on to them – they are the diamonds in the dust! Clean them up, hone and polish them, and have them work even better for you.

As a guy by the name of Alex Hamilton said in 1936, “Those who stand for nothing fall for anything.” So as you consider what you stand for, work your way through seven key questions:

What beliefs and values you have grown up with, and adopted? (Summarise them in a few key words).

1. What choices have you made about what to adopt, adapt or reject from your past?
2. What new choices could you make?
3. Have you successfully changed or rejected any that are unhelpful to your current needs and direction?
4. What values take you forward or hold you back?
5. What new goals and habits will challenge and change you?
6. Have some fun with self-coaching – what 10 things do you most enjoy doing? Highlight the top 3. What do these say about you and your values?

Having worked through some personal values, think about how your values impact on the approach you take to your life, your relationships and your job, Look at how they match or clash with the values of your organisation. How do they underpin what you do and how you do it? Consider what your organisation stands for, what your people value in common, and what needs to be challenged or changed to match the vision and plans. If values don’t drive you and your business, what does?