Dealing with Bullies

Many of us at some point in our lives are the victim of bullying. I was many years ago during my school days and although i knew i didn’t deserve it the unrelenting bullies would continue to make my daily school life absolutely hellish.

As a victim you try to think of ways to stop there teasing but seldom does anything work. If you tell the teacher you are seen as a grass and an even bigger Target for these simple minded thugs.

My daughter Jessica is 14 years of age and for the past 6 years she has been taunted, teased and even slapped by bullies at her school. She attends wadham school in Crewkerne and this school in the past had a bad reputation for there severe bullying problems. I fear for her safety walking home from school and the school itself will not deal with it.

There idea of help is to temporarily exclude the bully but this is not an effective deterent it’s a free holiday for the bully and is not what i would call a punishment. The bully in question is also harassing us in our home in the form of phone calls and lude texts but not only do we suffer this but we have threats of violence from the parents. The police were involved but were useless in this matter.

It seems a lot of the problems of bullying start with the parents of the bully.

I’ve seen with my own two eyes that the link between all of this is that they have little or no love from home.

They usually have parents that don’t care about them and whom let them do whatever they want.

There are kids in my town wandering around all day and night while there parents are at the pub. And there parents just don’t care.

These kids grow up having no structure, love or discipline and are very unbalanced individuals.

They take there anger out on the easy target at school. Because they find it easy and the punishment isn’t severe. I think as a Victim of bullying myself that an effective way of dealing with the bullies is to deal with there family life.

Talk to there parents explain the whole thing and see if we can change it from the inside out.

And maybe give counseling to the child and see what the causes of there behavoiur stem from.

I firmly believe a good parent should love and support there child and if they can not be a decent parent who listens to and loves there child and show them wrong from right that they should simply not be parents.

Many of society’s delinquents are the consequence of having no decent family upbringing. and to make changes to the youth you must first change the parenting. Children thrive on love and a balanced stable homelife. Rules are a must children need them or they go off the rails. So if your thinking of having children. Think hard as they are a full time job your social life is not important.

Raise your children well and you will reap the rewards when they turn out happy and balanced and successful. I have six children and they come first in everything i do. Children like puppies are for life not just for Christmas.