Dealing with The Pain of Losing a Child
by This is a tribute to those such as Dong Yun Yoon, John Travolta and many more that have experienced the loss of a child. My prayers go out to all those grieving parents out there today.
I am not a fan of watching television. Aside of educational documentaries and an occasional orchestral experience, I truly think it causes more damage than good. My husband on the other hand, lives by the news and comedic entertainment. I occasionally get a glimpse of what my husband is watching and I cannot help but to become engrossed with the moment. Two recent events have stirred me to write about the loss of my son. The first event was back in December, in San Diego Dong Yun Yoon a Korean immigrant lost his wife, two children and mother-in-law when a Marine Corps jet crashed into the family’s house. It was devistateing. I couldn’t sleep that night. The second event happened on January 2nd 2009 when John Travoltas sixteen year old son Jett died after suffering a seizure while on vacation. I could not help but feel for these people. Famous or not, it doesn’t matter who you are, the loss of a child is inexplicably debilitating. It has taken me some time to be able to write this piece, but it came to my attention that people really do not understand how serious this is. Society has become immune to truly understanding this kind of tragedy. I’ve taken this time to not only use this opportunity to help me heal, but to shed a little light on this topic. I have a need to bring awareness to those that have never experienced this. I would like to share what was most helpful to me and to those friends and loved ones who have experienced the same loss.
Dong Yun Yoon, Yong Mi and new baby girl
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John Travolta, Jett Travolta, and Kelly Preston
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On October 26 2002 I entered San Dimas Hospital in San Dimas California with the intentions of expediting the long awaited delivery of my first child. I had a procedure done to assist in the beginnings of the labor process. I was then sent home to wait it out and see if the procedure would work. Several hours later about 1 a.m., I began to experience a series of what I thought were contractions. My husband jumped out of bed and collected our belongings. We loaded up in the vehicle and rushed to the hospital. It was the most exciting yet nervous moment of our lives.
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Post CommentDee Gold
On March 15, 2009 at 6:27 am
I felt the pain as I read this.Your a brave woman.I tried to click the I like it button but I had problems with it.But I want you to know I really like this article of yours.
Aotearoa gurl
On March 15, 2009 at 7:04 am
This story has so many different feelings all wrapped into one making it such a hard way to describe it. Just shows that life throws us some really hard blows but then in the end something good comes out of it. I am so sorry for your loss and am deeply sorry if what i have said dosn’t make sense and offends you i dont mean to do that but its just hard for me to express how i feel about your article, but i really liked it, made me wish i was there so i could give you a big cuddle.
Anne McNew
On March 15, 2009 at 7:51 am
Great story. full of emotions and inspiration.
Great post.
Joni Keith
On March 15, 2009 at 11:50 am
Sandra, this story is heartfelt and tragic. It made me cry for I could feel your sorrow. I know of the difficulty of your childhood because our paths are similar. But I cannot possibly imagine the pain you endured losing Isiah. I think sometimes people are uncomfortable around someone who is suffering and find it easier just to avoid the situation. Sometimes there are no “right words,” it is the act of “being there” that gives comfort. That you were able to build a relationship with God through your time of sorrow gives strength to your faith. You have written the story with grace although I’m certain old wounds were opened while you were writing it. On the other hand, writing about it is another form of healing.
Sandra, you and Dan are amazing people. The picture of your boys makes me smile. They are so beautiful. I know how much they mean to you and how every choice you make is with their best interest in mind and heart. Thank you for sharing this heart wrenching story. If I were there, I would give you a big hug right now.
Mrs M
On March 15, 2009 at 1:35 pm
You just about made me cry when I read thru this article. You put so much effort into it and I bet it was tough to share. It reminded me of the tough time I had….well let me not tell that story now. Just know that I am sure everyone who reads your story will truly appreciate the time you put into it. Well done.
Jo Oliver
On March 16, 2009 at 1:21 am
Sandra,
Your courage and will to write this is an inspiration to us all. I can not write all my feelings here, so I am sending you a personal message. However, all readers should know what courage it took for Sandra to face her feelings and put them to paper. I send my love to you and your family.
Kairos
On March 16, 2009 at 2:04 am
if a child loses a parent/s s/he will be called orphan. But how do you call parents who lose a child? None. nothing.
I was crying while reading your story. I remember so many parents especially mothers who lost their children. I can’t imagine myself losing my kids.
I had similar experience two years ago when my youngest son, he was two years old then, had an accident. He was in the hospital almost lifeless, suffering. I wanted his suffering to be mine.Only prayers helped us to get through.
The kind of love we give to each of our kid is unique. Thank you for sharing your story to the people. May we each draw strength from each other.
nobert soloria bermosa
On March 16, 2009 at 2:58 am
nice story,inspiring story
Betty Carew
On March 16, 2009 at 6:34 am
Sandra first I would like to express my sorrow at your lost. I know a part of what you went through our daughter lost her only baby girl almost 14 years ago and still grieves today. She has 2 wonderful boys but her arms still ache for the one she lost. She still looks at pictures of her. She was with us one day and passed in her mothers arms.I have heard her say the same things as you said when people say ” You can have more” and things like that. God Bless and keep you all safe. You do have two very handsome boys there. So very well written I hoped it helped you by sharing. God Bless.
lanne
On March 16, 2009 at 12:19 pm
Very nicely put together piece. No one should ever have to go through the pain of losing a child.
CutestPrincess
On March 17, 2009 at 1:18 am
very inspiring piece… it’s very painful to accept but sometimes it’s God’s will! he has a better reason… everything happens in purpose!
Cheyrl Crandall
On March 17, 2009 at 7:16 pm
Sandra , I know what you went thru, take care,
Yovita Siswati
On March 18, 2009 at 5:38 am
I am sorry for your lost. You are very brave and strong. Thanks for sharing your story. It is very inspiring.
Tena Mosher
On March 20, 2009 at 11:28 am
i am so sorry for your loss… My heart is with you…
egypt33
On March 21, 2009 at 4:53 pm
Very deep and painful…
Ruby Hawk
On March 21, 2009 at 9:27 pm
My son and his wife have gone through this twice with twins both times. Both of the first twins were lost but one of the later twins survived. I can only imagine the heartbreak. You have my sympathy.
BC Doan
On April 4, 2009 at 1:01 pm
I’m so sorry that you lost your son! The situation could have been avoided if the nurse listened to you.
It’s clearly the hospital’s fault..Did you sue them?