Developing a Magnetic Personality
by An article on how to be a people person.
Personality is the constitutional, mental, social, and emotional characteristics that give personal identity to individuals. There is something about one’s personality which cannot be captured by a photographer or artist, nor is it capable of description, yet we all know that it has a great deal to do with one’s success in life.
One of the reasons that so many fail to get what they want out of life is that their personalities repel rather than attract. Too often we think that a “front” or “put on” will get us by this fundamental success principle. Personality is not something that you can turn on and off like a light or dab on like lipstick or powder. There is more to personality than one’s personal appearance. This is but one of the thirty-six traits of a pleasing personality although we are not born with it for it is as uninheritable trait.
It must be cultivated through social intercourse once we have learned the many traits that make up its being. We must study these traits. Learn them well. Then, appreciate and apply them. As you do, your “new self” will reflect in a winning, pleasing, and magnetic personality.
AFFABILITY
An affable person is one who is not difficult to approach or talk to because of his polite and friendly being. He is down-to-earth”, as the expression goes-not aloof or beyond the normal means of communication.
A lot of persons are stopped short of success because of a “snooty” or “I am better than you” attitude. Instead of attracting people, customers, clients, patients, they repel them. Watch this one at the time he first tastes success- the corporal that just got his Chevrons, the second lieutenant that just received his commission, the salesman who is just assigned to the home office, the new junior executive, the man or woman who has just received his tidy sum of money. The fruitful results of applying other success principles can go down the drain if one fails to make affability a part of his personality.
Cure selfishness with a feeling of kindness and goodwill to all people. Be just as willing to communicate kindly with the waitress, elevator operator, the maid, clerk, yes-even the garbage man, and all those with lean pocketbooks. To neglect the small courtesies of life is to ensure neglect for yourself.
I am talking to you in plain language that can be understood and if only applied, it can mean the difference to you between success and failure in life.
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