Don’t You Ever Lose Your Virginity!
by Why premarital sex isn’t the answer to a modern relationship.
Is this the new poster for promiscuity?
First of all, let me set the record straight: On behalf of my mom, I am still a no-boyfriend-since-birth, 22-year-old virgin.
It might seem that life isn’t fair. I mean, I guess I’m pretty enough, I got an ample bosom (!), and my personality, although not ostentatiously sparkling, can be bubbly. I am likeable, I am smart. I have great parents — being the only daughter, they have raised me well enough to give me the sense of discipline, and I am sure they have my best interests at heart. I have a wonderful circle of friends, who gives me joy and encouragement because I can get a little clumsy and hysteric sometimes. The people that I have come across with have taught me little by little how I should value myself while looking out for others. I am proud of what I have accomplished so far, and I am still retracing from all the missteps I’ve took. Overall, life has been good to me.
Except for boys. And love.
I can never get myself any closer to the opposite gender. Although I do have (a handful of) male friends I know I can count on, it just doesn’t get any more platonic than that. Maybe it’s the fact that I’m shy and that I haven’t exactly been exposed to boys in my early years that account for my present aloofness to men. Even with all the movies I’ve watched and
the magazines I’ve read, I still don’t know how to flirt. I communicate with them on a purely ‘professional’ level (schoolwork and stuff), sometimes personal and friendly — but not to the point of “The Moment of Truth” interrogations. (That would seriously freak me out.) Since I had my first crush in Grade One, everything else that followed are simply intangible infatuations. I have never crossed the river of serenades and dates, and chocolates and teddy bears. Why can’t my status in Friendster be “In a relationship” or the intriguingly neurotic “It’s complicated” — always the plain and boring “Single”? Maybe I give that snooty, bookish aura that turns boys off. Or maybe I am too chubby, and we know how boys fall for the model-like waifs. (But I was voted “#1 Best Mother Potential” on Facebook’s Compare People application!) Am I too silly to handle romance?
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Post Commentwebseowriters
On August 31, 2010 at 7:17 am
Thanks for sharing
darkportrait
On August 31, 2010 at 2:03 pm
Intresting article. Personally “Maybe I give that snooty, bookish aura that turns boys off. Or maybe I am too chubby, and we know how boys fall for the model-like waifs” I kinda like the bookish “aura” and if a guy cant appreciate who you are regarding what u look like or your personality. there not worth while. I just broke up with my girlfriend and well, you dont gotta worry about never finding someone. There out there you just gotta look!
-Stuart
Mr.Reggie
On August 31, 2010 at 10:10 pm
nice write..
Jaybeef
On September 7, 2010 at 11:00 am
Nice story. I’m sure it’ll work out sooner or later
AshleyApathy
On September 25, 2010 at 4:31 am
Not a bad thing to be a virgin at 22. Just society wants you to think other wise. Keep it, girl.
V rank
On October 2, 2010 at 10:12 am
i like your opening that sounds like self-selling… hehe… it makes your article more interesting… good job…
my opinion on your no-boyfriend-since-birth thing is that maybe you appear to be very “too perfect” that you can be too powerful… most men prefer a smart girl but not too smart and has a clue of funkiness… I mean a girl who has a bit of vulnerability… grrr i hope i make sense… anyways… I enjoyed this article…
hosariwi
On October 4, 2010 at 6:45 am
This is an excellent article, which is very clear and to the point. I FULLY SUPPORT YOU. I re-echo your title, and tell our modern day girls, “Don’t you ever lose your virginity at whatever cost”!
gb1269
On October 13, 2010 at 4:32 am
informative post from experience.keep up the goodwork
Mark Modi
On March 16, 2011 at 5:27 pm
You are spot on. I totally agree in remain virgin until you got your spouse. Easy said than done but it is all about will.
It sad to see girl and boys start engage in sex at very young age and some even sexually active at age of 14. I guess that okay if they want to be like Maria Ozawa. But what happen when suddenly the girl get pregnant at illegal age and the boy also underage.
The trouble it made will go on and on. So to be safe, no sex unless getting married.
Dee Gold
On May 12, 2011 at 10:27 pm
it’s good that you value you beliefs,cheers to you.I hope many girls would also wait before it would be too late
iamhanifah
On June 25, 2011 at 10:30 pm
wow nice to know that about you,,,,, excellent post
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On July 3, 2011 at 10:19 am
It is really interesting. I agree that parents should have taken more active role in their children’s life, especially providing neutral and educative information on sex, specially about HIV/AIDS and STDs. So their children are armed with adequate (or almost adequate) information about sex. However, there is one very important missing. It is self esteem and self respect. Parents must teach their children how to say “No.” despite the raging peer pressure on having sex. Lots of teenage girl have sex because of peer pressure, both comes from their circle of friends or their boyfriends. It is very important for women to learn how to say “No.” and assert her decision on her boyfriends. Some of those pregnant teens are just do not know how to assert themselves.
V Kumar
On December 2, 2011 at 4:38 pm
Liked your views. So different from what has become almost a fashion…. Yet, I find a lot of wisdom there. Keep it up. All the best.