Fear of Failure and Fear of Success, Two Sides of The Same Coin: Use Your Common Sense to Conquer Them
This article, describing an odd story happenned to a young lady, makes us reflect on some of the fears which represent roadblocks in the pursuit of any objective in life. It awakens us to the use of our common sense to overcome uncommon as well as ordinary difficulties.
Yesterday evening, I ended up watching on TV the odd story of a young lady who embodied, at least in part of her life, two of the fears which afflict many of us in our endeavors: ‘Fear of Failure and Fear of Success’. She received suggestions to get rid of them from so far away and unlikely places!
Born in a family having an ill and disabled child, she unconsciously felt like she never received all the attention and love she craved for, being in good health. She always got very good grades, then a good job and always made all she could in her life for pleasing others.
It seemed like her major concern was what to do for feeling accepted and loved in her family, work-place, everywhere. The fear of failing was for her something to dread as well as the fear of being successful in life. ‘Failing’ would have been unbearable! How could she give a delusion, a pain to an already grieving family? But being very successful would have meant somehow dealing with the “Who-Do-You-Think-You-Are” sort of attitude from others.
All her life was spent dealing with these fearful and confusing feelings until an unforeseen occurrence hit her life. One day at the beach, at the age of 33, she had a bad stroke… “Although terrible to experience, it was the best thing that could ever happen to me”, she said. Definitely it changed the course of her life.
Lying on the beach, medical aid did not arrive soon since most of the people around her thought that she was just resting under the hot sun. While struggling in pain later at the Hospital, she had an experience that reported to the audience as much vividly as she could, but fully aware that for many it would be hard to believe.
She felt as if, all of a sudden, was liberated by her suffering and realized then, that she had been detached by her body. She could see it from a distance lying on the Hospital bed, but in that moment, she was only ‘Thought’, ‘Conscience’. These were the best words she could find to describe the feeling.
While observing all that was going on around her body, she heard something, that …”we could interpret as music but more appropriately it would be like some sort of vibration”, she said. Following this sound or vibration that attracted her, she found herself in front of some sort of “Entities of Light”.
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