Finding Friends in New Places
by Often when people move to a new area they shut down because they have no friends. Instead you should rev up, step out and let people know you’re new in town. Check out these hints for connecting with people who are likely to become friends.
What Do You Love?
One thing you are never without are your passions, your interests, the things you enjoy doing. They travel with you wherever you go and are the keys to finding friends and feeling at home in your new surroundings. Take a moment to write down what you love doing, even if it seems like the sort of thing that is normally done in private, like reading. Then write down things you’ve been curious about but never got around to doing. Next write down knowledge or skills you’d enjoy sharing with others. Now turn your eyes outward on your new home. Adventure awaits you.
Explore Your Surroundings
Just what’s out there? Don’t be fooled by apparently dull appearances. This is an investigative activity in which you try to ferret out every odd or not-so-odd thing that goes on. Watch the community activity listings in small town newspapers. If you’ve moved to a truly tiny locale, ask the people at the grocery store. They usually know everything that’s going on.
Most of the time, though, what you’re looking for is fairly easy to find. The first stop should be the Chamber of Commerce. But don’t stop there. As with most sorts of questions, it’s worthwhile asking at the library. If you haven’t gotten a phone book yet, you’ll be able to find one there and can browse the yellow pages for anything from gyms to dance clubs. Libraries often have bulletin boards as well and host club meetings, musical groups and film showings.
If you enjoy outdoor activities, check out parks. While visiting one, ask if there are others and how they compare to the one you’re at. By asking questions you often learn about places locals otherwise keep secret. If you enjoy history, check out the local historical society (even if you don’t enjoy history these folks likely know the area well and can point you in the direction of people who share your interests).
The spirit of this stage is to learn about what’s in the community, to not make assumptions, to ask questions and tell lots of people you’re new in town. Don’t be shy about appearing odd. No harm is done by asking, “Is there anyone offering ballroom dancing classes here?” You might be surprised by a positive answer or you might be pointed in the direction of the next town over or the best person to answer your question.
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