Finding Friends in New Places
by Often when people move to a new area they shut down because they have no friends. Instead you should rev up, step out and let people know you’re new in town. Check out these hints for connecting with people who are likely to become friends.
Join Clubs
Once you’ve found out what’s out there, it’s time to decide where to spend your socializing time. Try anything that strikes your interest. Interest-specific clubs are a great place to start. There’s nothing wrong with going to one club meeting or function and never returning. You’re trying to get a feel for the group as a whole, the vibe, the dynamics. Is this something you want to be a part of? This is the time to turn things you normally consider solitary pursuits into potentially social ones. If you’re an avid reader, consider joining the local Friends of the Library or reading club. If you enjoy photography, see if there’s a photography club around. This is also a good time to check out things you’ve been curious about but never tried. Maybe you’ve always been curious about the appeal of quilting and it’s a big thing in your new community. Or maybe you’ve needed to become more active and biking is a close second to cars as a mode of transportation in your new home. Ask around if there’s a cyclists club to help you get started on the right foot.
Volunteer
Sometimes there isn’t a club, per se, but there are organizations that support an activity that you enjoy. Museums, theaters, and music halls are great places to volunteer if you want to meet other lovers of the arts. Humane societies or animal rescue groups are perfect places for meeting other animal lovers. Look into volunteer opportunities and ONLY take on duties you’re comfortable with. The idea is not to overburden yourself with obligations in your new community but to meet people and engage your passions.
Start Something
If all else fails, start something. If there’s a skill or passion you can share, offer classes or start a club. Starting something requires you to make phone calls, put ads in papers and flyers in windows. It gets you talking to people and declaring who you are and what you enjoy. Maybe no one responds to the first announcement of a hiking club or dog walking outing. Keep at it. People will find you. Perhaps throw your net wider and create a county-wide, regional or state organization in an attempt to find those of like mind if you’re a member of a rare breed.
Have No Fear
Your author has moved numerous places within the United States and always finds friends despite being of a naturally shy, retiring nature. My passions and curiosity lead me and eventually I connect with people of a like mind. I’m certain you will too. Don’t be afraid to get out and shine.
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