Forgive and Forget

I have heard many people imparting me the “Three Golden Words” to a healthy Relationship. Desperate as I was to have a healthy relation with my partner, I did listen to them with a good Ear. As mentioned earlier the “Three Golden Words” are/were “Forgive and Forget”. I couldnt agree more with what they say. Forgiving and forgetting is indeed the key to success in a Relation. That makes a couple more close and intimate with each other, sharing a bond which isnt destroyed by mere misunderstanding because they believe in Forgiving and then forgetting about it.

But thats not it.

A friend of mine, who like me believes in those magical words too, started implementing them in her life too. But that is where I sense a problem. She ended up paying a Huge price for her three word mantra. The price, not been a pleasant one, was her Dignity and Respect. Now, you many wonder how did it turn out this way, when it was all well in the Fairy Land ?

Well, The answer is – Its equally important for both the people involved in a relationship to implement ideas to improve their life together. Isnt it ? What if only one partner acts like a saint always forgiving and forgetting, and the other as the sinner, always making mistakes and expecting to be forgiven ? Instead of moving towards a healthy relation, they started moving in the opposite direction – the rotten one … !!! Once forgiven opens the possibility of seeking forgiveness again and again, No matter how painful it can be for the other to forget.

As the key to maintain a good Relation is to “Forgive and Forget” , The key to maintain and preserve your dignity is to know the thin line that differentiates from been generous to been used by your partner for your generosity.