Getting Over Loss

First of all let us learn to be happy in this short stay and not to make our lives heavier than they already are on account of multitide out there that rub us the wring way.We come into the world and there is an exit too, although many are divided about how that takes place and even argue their points until they are angry about not having their views accepted.

The best thing is one has to accept that life is temporary and we do not live forever ( many will say that I do but in other forms). I won’t get into the spiritual side of this question because I would like to contend with the fact that unless i can prove there is a hereafter, I would  not discuss it when talking about a loss of life. For other people belief in the hereafter is a way of coming to terms with the loss of a friend or loved one and that can be understood. We all have different ways of coping with the hardship of accepting loss and some are more spiritual than others and call upon their spirituality when there is an abrupt loss of life in their family or among their friends.

Getting over loss means having to understand that death occurs once as far as we see it and if there has been no suffering than you could at least say that perhaps the loss was better than years of infirmity. The loss may have been better than a gradual decrease in the quality of life leading to dependence, constant suffering and other ills. In some cultures death is celebrated but in the west that still is not so. People like to think they will go on for good and it will always be the next person who will be hit but we are all touched by this at one time or another. It is better to be resolved not to get depressed about a loss especially if this person would not want you to continue  your life like that. A certain amount of depression is understood and accepted to cope with loss.

Most often a periood of mourning is also a healthy approach at dealing with loss. It allows the person to remember the good times that they shared with the departed.