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How to Deal with Miserable People?

Tips on how to deal with miserable people.

Do you feel like you are beating your head against a brick wall when dealing with certain people? I am sure that this may be more common than one would think. All too often we are put into situations with others, either by our own choice or by some outside circumstance which can leave us feeling disrespected, hated, not welcome, or just plain miserable ourselves. We want to throw our arms in the air and hide rather than deal with these people. How do you deal with miserable people?

To deal with miserable people one must first understand why these people are miserable in the first place. Their reason for the way they treat you the way they do may not be your fault. In other words it may not have any bearing on anything you have said or done. You also need to realize that you can not control someone else’s actions, you can only control your own.

“People nurture hatreds when they are miserable, they need something or somebody to scorn.” Belva Plain-Crescent City.

The next time you are dealing with miserable people remember the above quote. If the above is true and a miserable person is always looking for something or someone to scorn it may just be that you are their closest target. Stop letting yourself be drawn into their game. If you feel the need to retaliate-STOP. You may need to walk away or refuse to spend any more time with these people. Another good thing to remember is that we may not like or be liked by everybody we meet or deal with and this is ok. It is also alright to stay away from someone who is treating us badly or who makes us feel miserable ourselves.

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  1. Emmie

    On August 13, 2010 at 8:40 pm

    Yeah great article. It can be very difficult to deal with miserable people… in fact i can be one of them sometimes and although i know i am being off with people i can’t stop it either. Still makes you feel bad though.

    Good read.


  2. Starpisces

    On August 13, 2010 at 9:05 pm

    agree with you.
    It’s not easy to deal with miserable people.

  3. Likha

    On August 14, 2010 at 1:09 am

    Sometimes it takes one to see beyond the behavior to understand why they do what they do. Not easy but worth the try. This is very helpful.

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  5. Jenny Heart

    On August 18, 2010 at 3:32 pm

    True words of wisdom indeed!

  6. Goodselfme

    On August 18, 2010 at 9:59 pm

    Great tips thank you.

  7. stephanus

    On August 19, 2010 at 8:46 pm

    we all have our share in misery in one way or another, but learning to cope with them so as not to make other people miserable because of us is indeed another thing. good post.

  8. yes me

    On August 20, 2010 at 10:37 pm

    One should never Hate, good shout here cheers


    On August 21, 2010 at 11:20 pm

    Or if it happens a lot with with certain people, you can always talk to them about it. If talking doesn’t work you can do what I do, and that’s say, “Well if you don’t want to talk about it, don’t treat me bad just because you are in a crappy mood.” So far, this hasn’t failed and the certain people think of their actions, at least toward me, more.

  10. Sharif Ishnin

    On August 24, 2010 at 10:55 am

    At one point or another everyone feels miserable. Your tips actually helps both sides of the equation. A very well written post.

  11. PSingh1990

    On August 31, 2010 at 1:30 am

    Nice Share

  12. hadriena108

    On March 2, 2011 at 7:28 pm

    I have found the love of my life, and my dad is making me miserable. Everyone knew how he is except me. I was the only one in the dark, and now I have to fight the fight of my life.

  13. Tiki33

    On March 4, 2011 at 11:26 pm

    It’s sad that we have to deal with the behavior from a miserable person. I’m positive praying for them would make it a little easier. Misery loves company. Thanks for the share!

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