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		<title>By: Soundbite</title>
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		<dc:creator>Soundbite</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Sep 2011 02:55:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My survival pack for dealing with rude people in various situations (I&#039;ve used all of these and do the one in number 4 on an almost daily basis.)

1. Rude person whizzing past you and missing you from within quarter of an inch whilst riding their bike on the footpath you&#039;re walking on - particularly where there is NO cycle path shared with the footpath.

Solution : if you see it coming, give them the elbow and knock them off their bike! (this is a personal favourite of mine)

2. Rude person you don&#039;t even know who simply walks up to you and begins a seemingly innocent interaction which instantly turns nasty with some antisocial behaviour

Solution : Ask them if they had their medication today.

3. Rude person who tries to muscle you out of the way when queuing for something.

Solution : Regardless of their gender, stamp really really (and I mean really) hard on their foot, and don&#039;t even apologise! 

4. Rude people coming up to you in the street or even blocking your path so you can&#039;t get to where you need to go, just in order to ask you for money or to sign up to a charity*

Solution : Wear headphones when you&#039;re in the city - that way you have a legitimate excuse for ignoring them. 

*I&#039;ve actually had one of these arrested by the police for harassment.

5. Rude people that make loud noise or any other disturbance when it is clearly not appropriate in a situation.

Solution : Do and say nothing, pay no attention to it and when it is least convenient to them, do exactly the same thing back.

Other alternatives (if you are ever sharing a living space): Disconnect the electricity (fuse board) or short out the electricity (insulated wire coat hanger)


6. Rude people who display passive aggressive behaviour.

Solution : Give it right back. If they ask you something or simply exclaim something during conversation, just say you&#039;re confused and that you don&#039;t understand what they&#039;ve just said.. This gives you time to think up a reason for why you are confused and also make them look incredibly dumb.

7. Rude people who insult you to your face for no reason at all

Solution : Thank them form the bottom of your heart - and try to make it sound sincere. Do not raise your voice or look even bothered by it.

8. Rude people who see fit to occupy a space where it is CLEARLY evident to even a partially sighted person that someone or a collection of people have reserved it for a reasonable period of time in reasonable circumstances. Particularly in public places, reserved seats on trains, theatres or other places with reserved seating.

Solution : Ask them politely to move. If this doesn&#039;t work (and lets face it, this probably won&#039;t work), tell them that you are educated and that they are clearly not so, as they can&#039;t tell the difference between what has been reserved and what has not. Failing this, if it is at all possible, have them removed from that location or even embarrass them to the extent where they need to move.

9. Rude people that tail gate right behind you when you are driving.

Solution : Tail gating is extremely dangerous. Slow right down to a reasonable speed.

Side note : I&#039;ve actually known someone to get the hump with this kind of behaviour and assess the other parties car and their own car&#039;s safety features and just slam the breaks on.

10. Rude people you just don&#039;t like for any reason which is within the bounds of normality.

Solution : Just ignore them, even when they talk to you.
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My survival pack for dealing with rude people in various situations (I&#8217;ve used all of these and do the one in number 4 on an almost daily basis.)</p>
<p>1. Rude person whizzing past you and missing you from within quarter of an inch whilst riding their bike on the footpath you&#8217;re walking on &#8211; particularly where there is NO cycle path shared with the footpath.</p>
<p>Solution : if you see it coming, give them the elbow and knock them off their bike! (this is a personal favourite of mine)</p>
<p>2. Rude person you don&#8217;t even know who simply walks up to you and begins a seemingly innocent interaction which instantly turns nasty with some antisocial behaviour</p>
<p>Solution : Ask them if they had their medication today.</p>
<p>3. Rude person who tries to muscle you out of the way when queuing for something.</p>
<p>Solution : Regardless of their gender, stamp really really (and I mean really) hard on their foot, and don&#8217;t even apologise! </p>
<p>4. Rude people coming up to you in the street or even blocking your path so you can&#8217;t get to where you need to go, just in order to ask you for money or to sign up to a charity*</p>
<p>Solution : Wear headphones when you&#8217;re in the city &#8211; that way you have a legitimate excuse for ignoring them. </p>
<p>*I&#8217;ve actually had one of these arrested by the police for harassment.</p>
<p>5. Rude people that make loud noise or any other disturbance when it is clearly not appropriate in a situation.</p>
<p>Solution : Do and say nothing, pay no attention to it and when it is least convenient to them, do exactly the same thing back.</p>
<p>Other alternatives (if you are ever sharing a living space): Disconnect the electricity (fuse board) or short out the electricity (insulated wire coat hanger)</p>
<p>6. Rude people who display passive aggressive behaviour.</p>
<p>Solution : Give it right back. If they ask you something or simply exclaim something during conversation, just say you&#8217;re confused and that you don&#8217;t understand what they&#8217;ve just said.. This gives you time to think up a reason for why you are confused and also make them look incredibly dumb.</p>
<p>7. Rude people who insult you to your face for no reason at all</p>
<p>Solution : Thank them form the bottom of your heart &#8211; and try to make it sound sincere. Do not raise your voice or look even bothered by it.</p>
<p>8. Rude people who see fit to occupy a space where it is CLEARLY evident to even a partially sighted person that someone or a collection of people have reserved it for a reasonable period of time in reasonable circumstances. Particularly in public places, reserved seats on trains, theatres or other places with reserved seating.</p>
<p>Solution : Ask them politely to move. If this doesn&#8217;t work (and lets face it, this probably won&#8217;t work), tell them that you are educated and that they are clearly not so, as they can&#8217;t tell the difference between what has been reserved and what has not. Failing this, if it is at all possible, have them removed from that location or even embarrass them to the extent where they need to move.</p>
<p>9. Rude people that tail gate right behind you when you are driving.</p>
<p>Solution : Tail gating is extremely dangerous. Slow right down to a reasonable speed.</p>
<p>Side note : I&#8217;ve actually known someone to get the hump with this kind of behaviour and assess the other parties car and their own car&#8217;s safety features and just slam the breaks on.</p>
<p>10. Rude people you just don&#8217;t like for any reason which is within the bounds of normality.</p>
<p>Solution : Just ignore them, even when they talk to you.</p>
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		<title>By: Ex-New Yorker</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ex-New Yorker</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Feb 2011 14:46:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>If you want to see some really rude people, all you need do is visit New York State in the USA.  There may be people living in other states that are rude too, but New York is definitely one of them, and I don&#039;t just mean New York City.  It probably started there and moved into other parts of that state.  The &#039;New York State of Mind&#039; that New Yorkers love to brag about should more aptly be called, &#039;stinking thinking&#039;.  It does little more than just give them a chip on their shoulders with an attitude that they think they are better than others, and it all starts with their upbringing.  Their parents had that opinion of themselves and passed it on to their children. Oh, and if you doubt this attitude exists, just visit the state of Florida where many retired New Yorkers now live.  Florida used to be a happy &#039;sunshine state&#039;.  Today, it has a &#039;New York&#039; attitude.  New Yorkers have deceived themselves into thinking they are better than anyone else when the are really ignoramuses.  Such a pity they have ruined two beautiful states with their &#039;stinking thinking New York State of Mind&#039;.  They need to step outside their own narrow minded state of mind and see what people are like in other states where New Yorkers are often called, mean, rude, and sometimes &#039;inhuman&#039; as I&#039;ve been told.  </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you want to see some really rude people, all you need do is visit New York State in the USA.  There may be people living in other states that are rude too, but New York is definitely one of them, and I don&#8217;t just mean New York City.  It probably started there and moved into other parts of that state.  The &#8216;New York State of Mind&#8217; that New Yorkers love to brag about should more aptly be called, &#8217;stinking thinking&#8217;.  It does little more than just give them a chip on their shoulders with an attitude that they think they are better than others, and it all starts with their upbringing.  Their parents had that opinion of themselves and passed it on to their children. Oh, and if you doubt this attitude exists, just visit the state of Florida where many retired New Yorkers now live.  Florida used to be a happy &#8217;sunshine state&#8217;.  Today, it has a &#8216;New York&#8217; attitude.  New Yorkers have deceived themselves into thinking they are better than anyone else when the are really ignoramuses.  Such a pity they have ruined two beautiful states with their &#8217;stinking thinking New York State of Mind&#8217;.  They need to step outside their own narrow minded state of mind and see what people are like in other states where New Yorkers are often called, mean, rude, and sometimes &#8216;inhuman&#8217; as I&#8217;ve been told.</p>
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		<title>By: Ex-New Yorker</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ex-New Yorker</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Feb 2011 14:40:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>If you want to see some really rude people, all you need do is visit New York State in the USA.  There may be people living in other states that are rude too, but New York is definitely one of them, and I don&#039;t just mean New York City.  It probably started there and moved into other parts of that state.  The &#039;New York State of Mind&#039; that New Yorkers love to brag about should more aptly be called, &#039;stinking thinking&#039;.  It does little more than just give them a chip on their shoulders with an attitude that they think they are better than others, and it all starts with their upbringing.  Their parents had that opinion of themselves and passed it on to their children. Oh, and if you doubt this attitude exists, just visit the state of Florida where many retired New Yorkers now live.  Florida used to be a happy &#039;sunshine state&#039;.  Today, it has a &#039;New York&#039; attitude.  New Yorkers have deceived themselves into thinking they are better than anyone else when the are really ignoramuses.  Such a pity they have ruined two states with their &#039;stinking thinking New York State of Mind&#039;.  They need to step outside their own narrow minded state of mind and see what people are like in other states where New Yorkers are often called, &#039;mean&#039; and  &#039;inhuman&#039;.  </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you want to see some really rude people, all you need do is visit New York State in the USA.  There may be people living in other states that are rude too, but New York is definitely one of them, and I don&#8217;t just mean New York City.  It probably started there and moved into other parts of that state.  The &#8216;New York State of Mind&#8217; that New Yorkers love to brag about should more aptly be called, &#8217;stinking thinking&#8217;.  It does little more than just give them a chip on their shoulders with an attitude that they think they are better than others, and it all starts with their upbringing.  Their parents had that opinion of themselves and passed it on to their children. Oh, and if you doubt this attitude exists, just visit the state of Florida where many retired New Yorkers now live.  Florida used to be a happy &#8217;sunshine state&#8217;.  Today, it has a &#8216;New York&#8217; attitude.  New Yorkers have deceived themselves into thinking they are better than anyone else when the are really ignoramuses.  Such a pity they have ruined two states with their &#8217;stinking thinking New York State of Mind&#8217;.  They need to step outside their own narrow minded state of mind and see what people are like in other states where New Yorkers are often called, &#8216;mean&#8217; and  &#8216;inhuman&#8217;.</p>
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		<title>By: April</title>
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		<dc:creator>April</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Jan 2011 16:47:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>well thats too bad. I think people have different experiences. I am latina, and i have encountered some pretty rude black people, who try to be intimidating. </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>well thats too bad. I think people have different experiences. I am latina, and i have encountered some pretty rude black people, who try to be intimidating.</p>
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		<title>By: Missy D</title>
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		<dc:creator>Missy D</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Dec 2010 01:45:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you Allen for posting this. Especially the  comment of thinking before acting (or mabe reacting).  I am a black woman,and the most rude people I\&#039;ve encountered are white people. Pariticularly white males.  Some examples are bumping into me, crossing me while I\&#039;m in line, and rude comments. Not one apolgy or excuse me which makes these individuals not only rude, but an absolute bad person.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you Allen for posting this. Especially the  comment of thinking before acting (or mabe reacting).  I am a black woman,and the most rude people I\&#8217;ve encountered are white people. Pariticularly white males.  Some examples are bumping into me, crossing me while I\&#8217;m in line, and rude comments. Not one apolgy or excuse me which makes these individuals not only rude, but an absolute bad person.</p>
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		<title>By: Missy D</title>
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		<dc:creator>Missy D</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Dec 2010 01:44:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you Allen for posting this. Especially the  comment of thinking before acting (or mabe reacting).  I am a black woman,and the most rude people I&#039;ve encountered are white people. Pariticularly white males.  Some examples are bumping into me, crossing me while I&#039;m in line, and rude comments. Not one apolgy or excuse me which makes these individuals not only rude, but an absolute bad person.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you Allen for posting this. Especially the  comment of thinking before acting (or mabe reacting).  I am a black woman,and the most rude people I&#8217;ve encountered are white people. Pariticularly white males.  Some examples are bumping into me, crossing me while I&#8217;m in line, and rude comments. Not one apolgy or excuse me which makes these individuals not only rude, but an absolute bad person.</p>
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		<title>By: lonelygirl</title>
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		<dc:creator>lonelygirl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Sep 2009 14:21:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi all,  I am an african american women living in Germany (over 15 years now.  I agree that rudness comes in all differerent colors, shapes and sizes.  Unfortunately, for me I get laughed at almost daily.  I don&#039;t find myself ugly but I don&#039;t have the small nose and straight hair thats excepted as beauty.  It hurts so much to be laughed at and I cry offen about this.  The only thing that helps me sometimes is when I consentrate on the few friends that I have.  Some of them are german, poland, greek and africans.  They are wonderful people and I love them dearly!  Unfortunately, there not very many people like them.  Lets just all try to stick together because we know the hurt and pain of others laughter.  If anyone would like to chat privately,  you are welcome to send me an email (swilbie@yahoo.com).  Like I say &quot;makes friends not war&quot;.   Blessing to all of you :))))).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi all,  I am an african american women living in Germany (over 15 years now.  I agree that rudness comes in all differerent colors, shapes and sizes.  Unfortunately, for me I get laughed at almost daily.  I don&#8217;t find myself ugly but I don&#8217;t have the small nose and straight hair thats excepted as beauty.  It hurts so much to be laughed at and I cry offen about this.  The only thing that helps me sometimes is when I consentrate on the few friends that I have.  Some of them are german, poland, greek and africans.  They are wonderful people and I love them dearly!  Unfortunately, there not very many people like them.  Lets just all try to stick together because we know the hurt and pain of others laughter.  If anyone would like to chat privately,  you are welcome to send me an email (swilbie@yahoo.com).  Like I say &#8220;makes friends not war&#8221;.   Blessing to all of you <img src='http://socyberty.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> )))).</p>
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		<title>By: Netty net</title>
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		<dc:creator>Netty net</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Sep 2009 04:08:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>When I live in New Jersey I use to work with some rude ill manners jerks.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I live in New Jersey I use to work with some rude ill manners jerks.</p>
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		<title>By: yankee in the south</title>
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		<dc:creator>yankee in the south</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Mar 2009 06:08:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Universally, it is a self-centered and entitled &quot;lens&quot; that brings about a rude person...some of it is age, maturity and experience...sadly, race has been intimated as a causational factor, but really it is more cultural; we live in a culture of self-service, self-importance and outward apathy...  </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Universally, it is a self-centered and entitled &#8220;lens&#8221; that brings about a rude person&#8230;some of it is age, maturity and experience&#8230;sadly, race has been intimated as a causational factor, but really it is more cultural; we live in a culture of self-service, self-importance and outward apathy&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Sarah</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sarah</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 17:25:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ebony,&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
He isn&#039;t the God of the dead, He&#039;s the God of the living.  Which means right here, right now, you have to live your life in circumstances which may make you very angry and which God wouldn&#039;t have chosen for you.  But Jesus wants us to forgive.  He forgave all of us for crucifying Him when He came to earth out of love; He expects us to do the same if we want to be welcomed in the Kingdom of Heaven.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I also think you may want to take a look at the lives of Idi Amin, Pol Pot, Chairman Mao, and see that evil isn&#039;t limited to white people.  It&#039;s the result of sin entering the world through our ancestors, who were a bunch of different colors.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I pray that God will quench your anger and give peace to your soul.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ebony,</p>
<p>He isn&#8217;t the God of the dead, He&#8217;s the God of the living.  Which means right here, right now, you have to live your life in circumstances which may make you very angry and which God wouldn&#8217;t have chosen for you.  But Jesus wants us to forgive.  He forgave all of us for crucifying Him when He came to earth out of love; He expects us to do the same if we want to be welcomed in the Kingdom of Heaven.</p>
<p>I also think you may want to take a look at the lives of Idi Amin, Pol Pot, Chairman Mao, and see that evil isn&#8217;t limited to white people.  It&#8217;s the result of sin entering the world through our ancestors, who were a bunch of different colors.</p>
<p>I pray that God will quench your anger and give peace to your soul.</p>
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