How to Get Over Cheating

by BrandonGates in Advice, July 2, 2009

Being able to trust your partner is the most important thing in any relationship. In there is no trust you might end up in constant fear. There is no need to explain just how much damage can that do to you. So, what really happens once you lose trust in your partner? Everyone makes mistakes and that is perfectly normal. But how can you know if you should give another chance to your partner? Here are some useful tips on how to get over cheating.

Both partners must put a lot of effort if they want to restore trust after infidelity. It costs both partners a lot of time and patience. But if they really want to get over cheating and to continue with their relationship, they will probably succeed.

Quiet

Both partners must learn how to live with their imperfect boyfriend or girlfriend. We all make mistakes and none of us is perfect. They both must acknowledge that fact. It’s not good for you to deliberately emphasize your partner’s weaknesses. This will only make him or her more insecure about themselves and about the relationship you are both in. So, if you really want to get over cheating successfully, first you must to learn how to be quiet. Enjoy spending time with your partner and accept him or her the way someone really is. Do not try to change your partner because of one mistake.

Deadline

Make a deadline for your partner. This way he or she will be able to prove to you that they have realized that they made a mistake and that something like that won’t happen again. You need time to forgive and your partner needs time to learn. So, if you want to get over cheating, set a deadline.

Communication

Emotions

Your emotions were hurt and you need to hear, “I am sorry.” It’s a symbolic gesture that will show you that your partner is aware of your emotions. If things start to improve after that symbolic gesture, you are on a good way to get over cheating.

Positive things

Do all those things that make you both happy. Don’t look at past, focus on your future. So, go on with your relationship and stay positive. It’s a good way for the two of you to become close again. Once you manage to do all this, you will sure be able to get over cheating.

Friends

If all of this is not helping, try asking your friends for an advice. You will be surprised just how much they know you. Sometimes it is good to seek an advice from someone you trust; especially when there is someone who has betrayed your trust.

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Christian

On July 20, 2009 at 3:25 am

From someone who has lived in sin before marriage, let me answer you on a personal level… I was born and raised in a very “damned if you do anything wrong” Catholic home.. This being the case, I left the faith for some years and did my own thing.. I was in a very horrible time in my life when I met my now husband… He was more like my rescurer at the time. We fell in lust, (Not love) and I moved out of my own hell and made a home with him… We married about a yr and a half later…

Now I am not saying I regret get married or I regret my husband in anyway…(We are still growing in love and I pray that as the years go by we will become one in Christ as it should be.) But, I regret that we started off so very wrong.. I regret that there wasn’t courtship; time to learn about each other and to fall in Love the way God meant for it to be… (I know this now in my heart).

I was damned to Hell by my family members..(Not my immediate family, but the family that pretty much raised me as Catholic), I was told I couldn’t go home..etc… But, I shrugged it off, even though it was the most wounding and loonliest time of my life. Over time however, all was forgiven after we were married of course and especially when our first child was born…Boy does that change everyones heart.. (I won’t go on about this though..)

We will be celebrating our 7th wedding Anniversary this fall and we have two beautiful little girls.. So, I guess my point is that I believe in my heart my husband and I are meant to be together, I believe that is the will of my Father in heaven..(Why would he have let us last this long and given us such precious treasures) But, I know I hurt God by my actions and not waiting for his time, and his plans for us… And I am certainly making up for this now in life.. Our marriage isn’t perfect. We need to work on many issues together still.. But we do love each other and our willing to do everything in our power to keep our family together. In fact, we hope to do a marriage Encounter weekend, every 5 yrs if possible.. To keep learning about eachother..and to grow closer with everyday that we have.

I feel like I am babbling on now.. I just think it is very important for young people to realize what love really is… (1 Cor. 13:4-8) Love is Patient, love is kind..It is not jealous or pompous. It is not inflated… It is not rude…It is ot quick-tempered..It is not brood over injury…It does not rejoice over wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things…Believes all things..Hopes all things..Endures all things…LOVE never fails…. (Now this is a shorten version and was used as a reading at my wedding.. I use it as a constant reminder of our marriage; what it was, what it is now, and what I hope it will be in the end..).

The best advice I could give and wish someone would have given me, is this.. Go talkt o a good priest..someone you know well and trush his opinion and advice.. If you really THINK you are in love, then ask you partner to go on an Engaged Encounter weekend..(Ask your parish priest about this too…He will be able to hook you up with one..) You will not regret these steps..and you won’t have to live with past mistakes or regrets like I do…

My thoughts and prayers go out to all young people in these times we live in.. The pressures are so great and very scary IMO.. I would never want to do it again..

Peace in Christ,

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