How to Get People to Really Like You

For those of you who are interested in knowing how to get people to really like you, I will share some techniques that you can apply immediately to achieve this objective. Apply them faithfully and you’ll notice results quickly. These are not new stuff. People have been using these techniques for ages. My intent is to collate them in an easy-to-read and understand piece so that you may benefit from it.

Apply These Techniques Faithfully

• Smile and be cheerful – When you meet someone the first thing you should do is smile. What would your response be if you come across someone who is smiling, cheerful and warm and maintain direct eye contact and says hi to you, in comparison with one who frowns or looks away? Of course the answer is obvious. You will be receptive to the first one. Smiling shows friendliness and welcome.
• Pay attention to your appearance – People will already have formed an impression of you before you even utter a single word. So dress appropriately and try not to be sloppy. Yes, I know there are lots of very nice people who do not bother to dress nicely or take care of their appearance. But other people’s first impression of you is important if you want them to like you.  
• Maintain lively and pleasant voice tone – Your voice tone can be developed with practice. Avoid sounding squeaky or barely audible as this can be unpleasant or irritating to the listener.
• Remember their name – A person’s name is the sweetest and most important sound to him. Use it often. You‘ll make him/her feel good and important and he/she will love you for this.
• Listen attentively – Learn to be a good listener and pay attention to what he/she is saying and always maintain good eye contact. You have to make sure that you do not stare at him/her as that would make him/her uncomfortable. Don’t interrupt and don’t pretend to listen. There is nothing more irritating than pretending to listen when in fact your mind is a million miles away.
• Show active interest – Find a topic that interest them and if possible interest you too. Encourage them to talk about themselves. Pay full attention to what the other person has to say. Ask them questions but be careful not to be too personal or nosy. Assess the situation and see that what you’re asking is appropriate.
• Give compliments – Compliment the person genuinely about his good quality that you can see in him or her. For example, tell them they are good looking and have a good dress sense if that is true. Also look out for signals about how the person receives what you’re saying and fine tune if possible.
• Remember the little things – Everyone appreciates a little help if you help them without any selfish or ulterior motives. Help them truly and they will never say no to you. Also remember their birthday and follow up with any family concerns or problems, health issues of which you are aware. They will be so touched by this act.
• Practice basic hygiene – Always keep yourself clean and smelling nice. People tend to avoid other people who do not take regular showers or baths or who do not brush their teeth or who smell bad. By all means use breath mints, deodorant or whatever to overcome this problem.
• Be humble – No one likes a person with a big ego. Don’t brag or boast about yourself or your achievements. Arrogance has no place in maintaining friendship. If you give the impression that you know it all, that you are superior, you will make it hard for people to like you.
• Be sincere – This is the most important aspect of getting people to really like you. You must always be sincere in your words and action. Say from your heart and mean it truly. Sooner or later people can see through an insincere person.

What You Should Not Do

• Don’t buy someone’s friendship – Some people think they can buy people’s friendship by showering them with gifts. On the contrary, this will tend to make them feel awkward and uncomfortable. They will feel obligated. Such friendship will not last as it is not genuine. Besides, the kind of friend you would like to have, isn’t a friend if he/she base friendship on what you can provide for him/her in monetary terms.
• Don’t gossip – Avoid people who love to gossip about others. Don’t participate in such activities. Move away. Be the better person
• Don’t complain – People dislike whiny people. If you focus on the positive parts of your day instead of harping on the negative aspects, people will be more attracted to you.

Conclusion

All you need to deal with people and get them to really like you is to possess a strong desire and the willingness to put in effort to acquire the necessary skills and techniques. It can be done and you will see results. Constantly remind yourself how important these people are to you. Apply these skills and techniques and make it a part of your life. At first it may not seem natural but with practice and with time it will soon become a part of you. Do it full heartedly and don’t fake it. Your sincerity must be at the top of the list and you must be genuinely interested in people. People hate a fake. So remember if you want real and lasting benefits that a good meaningful relationship can bring, practice the above techniques faithfully.