How to Make Friends

There is a saying, “No man is an island” because a person cannot live on his own. This quotation implies that human’s nature always needs persons who can they get along with. And they are what we called “friends.” They are the one whom we can lean on — in good times and in bad times. We also consider them as  part of our lives. 

    How do friendships start?  At first, we called each other as a stranger. In every new face we meet, there are already impressions that processed in our mind. We usually made it through looking on one’s physical appearance or even on one’s way. Sometimes, we think that a person who has an angelic face is such a kind type.  And if a certain guy acts like a girl, we think of him as a gay. However, these are not the true basis for us to know one’s personality.

There are several ways on knowing someone. First is through socializing. When we always go with that certain person, we discover more simple facts about him, such as what are his likes and dislikes. Another is the sharing of thoughts. If there is already a good bonding between each other, we can learn to share what is in our heart and mind. Be a good listener, whenever he shares his feelings and ideas. It is also a sign the he begins to like you. Last is avoiding judgements. We should not judge right away because there are things that we may misinterpret, and this interpretation can lead us to take that person away from us.

There must be also an acceptance in friendship. Once acceptance occurs, it will signals the start of a good friendship. In a relationship of friends, it is not necessary that one of them should be selfless — that he gives everything to his friend, though he is the one hurting by what he did. On the other hand, being selfish is more difficult. We should not love only ourselves, but also others, especially our friends. However, everything has its own limitation, and we should consider the fair benefits of one another. Respect and trust are also important to maintain a healthy relationship among friends. Without these, they might have a misunderstanding, which leads to an argument.