How to Solve Impossible Problems

We all put up barriers and it’s not always a bad thing. Never stepping foot in the “hood” is probably a great barrier to have. So is never eating rotten food. Barriers on relationships or for problem solving however can have you banging your head against a wall of frustration. Another thing you should understand that looking at this from the outside makes it much easier to see. When you are living through it, it’s VERY difficult to understand what you need to do to “fix the problem”.

Mike works at a decent job and he wants the nice things in life

He’s bought a big truck and lives in a nice house. He enjoys going out to the bars and having fun hanging out with his friends. The problem is he simply doesn’t have enough money to do it. So he gets some credit cards and for a time Mike can do all the things he wants to do but slowly and surely his monthly payments start creeping up higher and higher. Now, not only does he not have enough money to go out, he doesn’t have enough money to pay his minimum bills and eat. He can’t afford the payments on his truck or the gas to drive it around now, so he tries to “buckle down” and not go out for a few weeks. The damage is already done though and he’s still slipping further and further into debt each month. He loves his house and truck and would never give them up. He just simply doesn’t know how he’s going to make ends met.

Sometimes forethought can save you from disaster but dropping the barrier can fix the problem. In the last example most people will be “forced” to sell their house or car to correct the problem. However if Mike had used some forethought and looked at his finances before he bought the house and truck he would have seen there wasn’t enough money there to cover his bills and still leave money for entertainment. His barrier was that he wanted the nice house and car even though he really couldn’t afford it. In the majority of problems you’re never “forced” to break down the barrier. In the second example she could simply live out her life never finding the man she “knew” was out there for her.

If you have a major problem in your life that you “can’t” fix think of this article because odds are good it’s a case of you putting up a barrier to your own success. Be it a decision that makes you look bad, asking for help when you promised yourself you never would, or simply accepting less than perfection in your house, or husband; make no doubt barriers can make you miserable.