How to tackle loneliness?

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You are a human being but a social animal. You are destined to live in the company of human beings. You are naturally endowed with special and unique talents; but your needs are varied and unlimited. Hence you have to necessarily mingle with others and depend upon other human beings.

But sometimes you are forced to undergo strange ordeals in your life; loneliness is one among them which you come across quite often in your life.

Loneliness is both a mental and physical state of mind in which you have a strange feeling of desertion. In the mental state, you feel lonely even if you are living in the company of men and women. In the physical state, loneliness is living all alone, in a state of separation from others, without any company. Loneliness may be a temporary or prolonged phenomenon of your life.

In the mental state of loneliness, you wantonly avoid the company of men and avoid interacting with them. This mental loneliness is caused by some external factors like the loss of your close relatives like your mother, father and friends; some times a love failure may also lead to such state of mind. When you are a notorious criminal and have been subjected to a solitary confinement, you may have to undergo the ordeal of loneliness by force.

If loneliness is not properly tackled, you may suffer from unnecessary mental worries and in extreme cases, you may even get mentally deranged. Therefore, the real question that lies before you is how to tackle loneliness. It is an open secret. Approach it with a positive frame of mind.

If you are in a solitary confinement and in chains, of course it is time to repent for what you have done. But that is not the end of the road to your life. You have to think positively. Life is after all with ups and downs.You can divert your mind in creative thinking; towards an academic career; you may be even surprised to know that convicts have turned into successful lawyers, educationists, doctors and successful novelists with their best sellers. It was a convict Vyas who turned into an author of an epic called Mahabharata.

As a victim of love failure, you will be mentally affected; you will hate everything in life and keep aloof from others. You will be in an enforced state of loneliness. But it is time to realize that love affair is only an episode and it forms part and parcel of your life.You have to realize the fact that tastes of human beings vary; personalities vary. Human mind is complex and intractable and always keep on changing. Therefore, you have to take such failures on your stride. Get yourself diverted or concentrate in your other pursuits of life, like employment, sports and other recreations. If winter comes, can spring be far behind?

If your mother, father or friend dies, it is a hard pill to swallow. It takes sometime to become normal. However, there are people who cannot digest such things so easily and get carried away. They should realize that despite all our efforts and diligence, certain things are beyond our control and knowledge. It is better to cherish and follow the ideals and guidance of our elders than to be rather sentimental and personal on their loss. On the one hand it helps you to maintain your tradition and on the other hand it helps you to come out of the shell of your loneliness.

Sometimes circumstances may force you into loneliness, when you are born as the only child of your parents; when you are left alone at home as a house wife by your spouse; when you are bed-ridden due to your illness; loneliness in such cases can be so taxing and boring. Such people should while away their time either by watching television or reading books or playing video games or games in the mobile phone.

Therefore, you should see that you are always be in the company of others and never allow loneliness overpower you. If loneliness is unavoidable, you have to resort to the methods mentioned above, so as to get you bailed out.