I Don’t Have To Look Beautiful

Sometimes when I’m lost in my head I get to observe a myriad of random thoughts passing through my mind. It’s like watching a movie, but with words, a soundtrack. This is where some of my writing comes from, just a germ of an idea or a sentence that really grabs my attention. I see something deeper in its simplicity and the wisdom that can be gleaned if I exercise some critical thinking to the observation. Now, I like to dress good. I like to feel sexy and attractive. How I present myself and care for myself is important. It’s not about how I look to others either, its how I look to myself and how it makes me feel; now on to a different tack.

Tonight I attended what was promoted as a seminar. It wasn’t, it was a sales pitch. It’s related to the coaching industry; my profession. So I was naturally curious and attended hoping to learn something new. They didn’t reveal very much at all but what I did hear did resonate with what I’m already doing. I am curious to know more about what they’re doing, particularly since it wasn’t really revealed in any concrete way what they do different than anyone else. They do claim to have a revolutionary model that transforms lives, but who doesn’t make that claim when in the human potential field.

Listening to some of the statements, I recognized some common truths that are foundational to my particular style and nature of coaching my clients. This is from a spiritual centre that gives the client more access to their faculties, emotions, etc. The giveaway to the possible hook and credibility failure to the program is the dependency factor. It’s a come back for more, for more, for more. They sounded so thorough in it’s’ power and success that I would have suspected revolutionary changes available for a client and the tools to continue, more or less, self-sufficient. This is an important factor to me. Teaching the man to fish leads to self-sufficiency.

When I work with my clients it may take some time to reach this point but this is my goal. My focus is not just to reach the goal they hired me to help realize in their life but to also impart the skills that will serve them well in the future as well. These skills develop a new level of awareness and critical thinking – or in another way, reflective or observational thinking – that integrates experience, emotions, feelings, thoughts, and looks deeper than the stimulus reaction. Coaching may still be an option in the future, but for the most part, it’s for the opportunity to work on something specific with a clearer focus and ability to get there much quicker. I know for myself, I enjoy processing my thoughts through conversation with another who can facilitate deep conversations. In doing so I discover my truths on my own but the conversation itself was the catalyst. The structure of coaching really has proven to facilitate these conversations better than any other I’ve had over the past 10 years.