What an interesting alias you have. Your long thoughtful comment came as a surprise since I rarely get comments at Triond. No, it’s far from a rant. It’s a thoughtful, insightful one. I might even quote you one day in my ‘Life Sparklers’ blog.
Thank you.

Best regards,
Tel

I really like this article, it has depth and warmth; something hard to achieve when we detach ourselves and look at the process objectively.

I like your approach to the idea of understanding how love works by looking within and appreciating that first. I only find that, with your line:

“If we are dependent on someone else for our sense of worth that we overlook our own perceptions of ourselves, we might lose discovery of our own value, something that can only be measured by our own perception.”

it could be rearranged to suggest that we cannot truly appreciate the lovability of someone else without taking into account our own lovability. And because many people do actually forget themselves and there is a loss of that personal value, those same people, because of that personal depreciation also lose sight of the value of the lovability of the other one in the relationship. Hence, I think I tend to agree that one can only love another as much as one loves oneself.

So then, it is my contention that it takes as much effort to stop and look within for our own value as it does to see another’s and that most people, not all but most, don’t recognize how little effort they are actually putting in.

Anyway, sorry if I appeared to rant there. Have a good day.