Lonely? Need Friends

This a busy world.

Looking for people to share thoughts without stress?

Meet people just like you, and me?

Seek, and ye shall find.

In every town, and city are small, pleasant cafes, or donut shops.

For years I’ve gotten up early and walked down to our local donut hole.

Initially, I didn’t know a soul. But, I kept going. I greeted people, some I asked to join me at my table.

years later it every day meeting of good friend, and acquaintances. We don’t like bad language, or crude behavior.

The Kind of People I Have Met

A lot of retired people enjoy coffee, and chatter. Others run companies, fly planes, golf in the 70s.

Ladies join us. The banter is brisk. Every now and then a little harassment surfaces to liven things up.

Be careful not to judge people by appearance. Some retired folks look like they dress in the dark The vice-president of a large, national company dresses like a construction worker. And, some construction workers dress like Donald Trump.

How to meet people.

Buy a cup of coffee, sip it, put it down and smile at somebody. Say good morning to those seated near you.

Try to look at folks coming into the shop, or those leaving, and say , while smiling, good-morning.

Your not investing your ego, nor self esteem in enjoying people, and let them see that you do. Start a conversation. Chances are the focus of your start will respond, and you’ll have a conversation started.

When you see the same people the next day smile, and say hello. It won’t hurt you.

It is true, once in a while you’ll say hello, and get a “hurmph” in return. I speak from experience, retired people don’t give it a second thought. It’s the other persons loss.

To Make Friends, be Friendly

Every body enjoys entering a room where they are recognized. It boosts their self esteem. Today most people consider themselves too busy to smile, and say hello. They exist in “Hustle bustle” jobs where thank you, and a smile are foreign. Don’t assume people are surrounded by pleasantness where they work.

Fear to assert yourself is easily defeated by trying. Remember, it is generally true everyone relishes being liked. The possible exception is spouses, but, in cafes, or donut shops most folks do.

I’ve heard people say where they don’t want to go to meet others.

This, then, is excellent news for you. You can meet fine people, drink good coffee, or lattes, and have a donut, or eggs if you like.

I don’t eat donuts. But, I drink coffee. I’m labeled the “mayor” I kid people, I invite people to sit with us.

I levy fines for silly reasons. The fines are never collected. My vice-mayor handles all our vices. Now, and then a football pool floats into the place.

My friends at the shop include a guy who traveled worldwide with the Harlem Globetrotters. A couple who own ten timeshares all in the US or Europe. Local police sit in with us. The director of nursing at a local hospital is a regular. Mothers, and their kids come in fore a pre- school meal. People from all walks of life sit with us. Why not you?