My Pride and His

How do you understand PRIDE and HUMILITY?

Do they vary among people?

Are they relative accordingly to one’s opinion or character?

I was called PRIDEFUL today. Being labelled as one, my thoughts automatically linked to HUMILITY.

Want to know what was my reaction? Passively surprised. It was the first time I received such judgment. It hurt me not because it was true but because it was an unjustified judgment that somebody has thrown on me without knowing me further.

I believe that we gradually develop our pride’s strength with time and experience. The higher we see our worth the prouder we become. Yet, it’s just up to us if we soar with our ego or we choose to remain on the ground. With my personality, I easily attract people. I can befriend different thoughts and tempers. I can play safe around competition as much as I can be daring with those who challenged my competence. But the bottom line here is, I don’t scare people away. With these people I attract, I didn’t get any harsh comments such as prideful or arrogant. Until, one person did.

It made me think WHY? With this, I gave him what he asked of me.. to think it hard. I even went beyond thinking. I surveyed my friends. And, none of them said that I am. Only one word from them struck me- I am OUTSPOKEN.

Does OUTSPOKEN correlates with PRIDE?

Definitely NOT.

So I thought further. Why would this person called me such when all of my friends did not. Could it be that this person is threatened with my pride that he easily noticed to the extent of being bothered by it? Just as a thief guards himself from another thief, so does a prideful guards himself from another prideful. One reacts immediately to a stimulus that has the same with his, in other words, he found his match. And one becomes more threatened when he sees the other as higher than him. And what are his common reactions towards his match?

The threatened one keeps accusing the other of that behaviour (prideful).

Then, there is this refusal to accept humility from the other.

And refusal to interact with the other.

The first behaviour is common to guilty people. They pass on their guilt to another whom they have seen to be capable of acquiring the same guilt. Since this person has seen me with the pride that he has, he passed it on to me to clear his conscience.

The second behaviour is the harder for these guilty people. It creates a threat to them. Since his match is giving in, that leaves him frightened to be burdened again with the guilt of pride. And,

The third behaviour is their final act. Refusing to interact with the person who threatens them is a refuge from showing their guilt and weakness.

I can openly admit that I am prideful and I can say that I gained my pride from my own experience and learning. But to showcase my pride is beyond my moral conscience. If people around me can’t resist praising me, it is my pride but I can’t be blamed for that. Keeping my pride is what I do. I am more delighted when people see through me, through my worth. I dislike telling people of my capabilities. I show off when I am needed. And that’s where my prideful begins. I am prideful because I know a lot of things that people doesn’t know of me. I am prideful because I am humble with my pride. I don’t show it off to impress people. I show it off to respond to critical circumstances. If one accused me of being prideful, it’s not my fault anymore. For when my worth is recognized, my pride is criticized.

Too bad, I just happen to be humble for a threatened arrogant. I pity people who are drowned by their arrogance to the point of not recognizing anymore the humility shown to them. To the people who are blinded by their arrogance, this I say to you: Beware when you accused someone as prideful because it reflects who you are- another piece of arrogant.

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