New Year’s Resolutions

While most people have one or two things that they really could or should change about themselves, why do we allow ourselves to feel the disappointment when we break New Year’s resolutions? We were looking for a long-term solution but using a short-term plan. We do not put a lot of thought into how and why we want to make a personal change and we do not set realistic expectations. This seems like simply logic, but we often find ourselves burned out from dealing with so many things that putting you first seems so far away. New Year’s resolutions should be life-long plans and not short-term fixes or you will see yourself having the same set of resolutions every year. Instead of this year being about losing weight or finding a new job, make this year about you and less about the expectations or perceptions of others. As Olin Miller stated, “We probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of us if we could know how seldom they do.”

Here is a short list of resolutions to start with:

Put yourself first – This is a first for a lot of people, including me. Sure it sounds selfish, but think back about how many years you have contributed to the happiness of those around you. When you are happy those around you should feel the same way. Putting yourself first also includes saying NO to others and not feeling guilty. Try it a few times and you will be surprised by how good you feel when you do not feel like every hour of the day is obligated to doing something for someone else.

Clear out the clutter – This means all of the things in your closet that you cannot squeeze into any more and those steady but non-evolving relationships. So yes, those clothes that are pushed to the back of the closet and those relationships that make you feel less than the person you are must go. More importantly decide if your social network of people are in your life for a reason, season or a lifetime and let go of any negativity.

Brand yourself – YOU are a brand. Complete every task thoroughly and to 100% of your ability. Even though you might not get constant praise, those that matter will recognize your talent and ability to get things done. As the saying goes, “slow and steady wins the race.”

WOW! This list did not include losing weight, going to the gym five days a week or finding a new job. Taking care of yourself does not mean you are ignoring others, but this year is about you and your well-being. Take the time to make a plan for you and that plan might include some or all of the above. Make 2009 a year to remember by surrounding yourself with positive people and leaving the baggage in 2008.