Obstacles to Making Changes Within Yourself

What is stopping you from making changes? Nobody knows how you operate better than yourself, to be honest you are the worlds leading expert on you! It may help to make a list of things that may hold you back from making changes before actually seeking assistance from a program or a peer or therapist.

Are you making these changes for yourself or for someone else? Do you think that nothing is going to change so therefore convince yourself that it isn’t important? Are you being honest with yourself? Are you asking other people for help? Are you really committed to making these changes? Most importantly, do you have the drive and willpower to make the changes you are thinking of making?

Here are a couple of things that held me back at first, and might just be holding you back:

I found that I would switch one destructive behavior for another, which is a change, but not the kind I was after because after all the point of making a change is so that you no longer participate in that destructiveness to self or others.

I realized that I failed to really change, partly because I wasn’t including my loved ones and people that could help in my effort to make changes.

I was also overconfident in my ability to make a change all on my own, I thought, incorrectly, that I need no help and that I could do it for myself, by myself, only when I failed miserably, many times in fact, did I realize the error in this thinking.

People change once the have a good enough reason to actually change. You don’t necessarily have to even want to make a change in order to know in your heart that it’s the right thing to do, but it really really makes it easier! Taking the time to explore your motivation for changing honestly will help you go from thinking about making a change to taking an initial action to actually changing for the better.

These little pointers and questions are intended to inform you of some manners in which you may be preventing yourself from making changes and becoming a better person, but I’m not perfect, only a human being and these helped me so my hope is that they may help you, please leave a comment and I will gladly reply to it!