Popularity – a Beginners Guide

Hopefully these people will be up for some drinks afterwards (avoid getting drunk). If they are, keep talking, and get them to tell some stories. Once you’ve told one of yours, sit down and let them have a go. You don’t want to monopolize the conversation, and you’ll need some stories for later. If everything goes well, ask for their numbers to organize another get together – this shows that you have initiative, and that you can get things done. It also gives you (obviously) all their numbers!

Group of Friends

Now you’re working your way in to their group, and will soon be one of them. The thing to do now is follow up on that get together – ask them over for dinner and a movie, or dinner and some sports event, or even just dinner and drinks. Pick a night when they’re all free, and set it up a month in advance, so everyone can be fully ready. Find out what food they like, and if you can, cook it. If you can’t, get a take away, keep it warm in your oven, and serve it on good quality plates etc.

Here’s your chance to bring out more stories, and more jokes. Get everyone involved. After dinner, while watching the movie/game/drinking, try to get everyone a little buzzed, break down their social inhibitions. Congratulations, you’re now one of the group, and have earned some new mates.

Expanding your social circle

At this point, you have a steady group of friends. Never hesitate to go out with them, or to meet new friends of theirs. Collect phone numbers, arrange to go out, prompt conversations, be generous with your money (but don’t show off). Now that you have a good base group, throw a party. Ask for donations from everyone, then go out, buy some booze, (beer for the guys, Alco pops like Smirnoff Ice for the ladies), buy some junk food, clear out your living room and kitchen, get some speakers (you can rent high quality speakers for about 200$, mediocre ones for 50$, or just borrow from some friends – search online for renting speakers in your area). This is your big shot – talk to whoever is left out in the party, draw them in to groups and conversations, and get to know as many new people as you can. Stay fairly sober so you can look after everything. Get still more phone numbers, facebooks, e-mails, whatever you can. Introduce people to others (let’s say Tom’s friends don’t know Jack’s friends – introduce them). Now you’re a big social mover, a great host, and an all round cool person to know. Well done!

Last follow up – suggest more parties (but not all at your house), and really get moving with them. If you want a how to on partying well, I have another article on it. I hope you enjoyed this. Keep an eye out for more guides/tips from me, and have a great time!