Rejection: The Pain

            Rejection comes in many forms, from a broken love affair, to being fired, but no matter how it comes, it still hurts.

            Your in love with your spouse, and she/he says he wants out, how do you react, so many end this way with a mutual feeling, only the one asking for out had the guts to say so. Many others feel no way, this is not what I want, I still love you, begin to wonder what they did wrong. While others may actual become angry, and accuse the other of having an affair, or worse they become violent.

            How about when you apply for a job, and your not hired, you wonder why, especially if you feel you are more than qualified for the job. Many people don’t realize that perhaps being over qualified is the reason they did not get the job, more than often we always think it is something we did.

            How about when you go to the park with your child, who is very out going and friendly, and he/she attempts to become friends with one of the children and the other child, has no interest, in playing with your child? Usually, a young child will not get upset or disturbed by this but for you, its very painful, you try not to show your feelings, but they are there.

            These are normal everyday things that happen to thousands of people throughout the world, and yet we feel all alone. So recognize how your feeling, and confide in someone you trust. We have all suffered rejection at some point in our lives, and dealing with it is very important. Most importantly never give up, don’t let is affect your self- esteem, and try very hard not to let it depress you. Depression on a small level is normal, but sometimes it can get out of hand, if you feel this is happening to you, speak to your health care provider. Depression and be seriously, sometime deadly.

            If you let any of these things to happen to you, and you let it totally upset you, then “rejection” has won, or the person who caused you this pain, has won! Learn to compensate, by looking at what you have going for you, and be grateful for the small things you have in life.  It may not be the beautiful mansion you wanted when you were younger, but at least you don’t have to worry about keeping the house in order. Perhaps the job you applied for was not really for you, look for something you enjoy, perhaps then your job wont be so cumbersome and can bring you some sort of joy. Finding what you enjoy in life, and turning it into a career, thus helping you to be happy. If your unhappy in life, your job or relationship, then any form of rejection will be compounded, and the pain more severe. Regarding a love affair, think of it this way, had the two of you stayed together longer, perhaps you two would have started arguing, causing hatred and more pain. Perhaps it could have turned violent, or you could have said or done something really horrendous, and made the situation worse.