Release

It takes time to finally let go of something that has been a burden on your shoulders for a long time but when you do it feels so nice so wonderful to have released a once so hurtful and almost unforgetable part of your life. Over  the past few years I have learnt what it means to hold onto and to release things that once held me back from being the best person I could be. You begin to understand  the meaning of the words anger ,disappointment and most of all secrecy and loneliness that can almost bring a person to consider suicide because one may lack a meaning for living.

In all this though a different person emerges ,a stronger more refined character that has a more objective and optimistic view to life. Its often said that for gold to be purified it must pass through the fire and I believe this often also applies in our life as human beings , as God shapes our future and guides our path towards our true destiny we go through periods in our life when the word  bad just seems like a joke because what you seem to be going through seems indefinable.

A story is told of a man whose life  had reached it’s breaking point , his marriage of 10 years just fell apart after he had just spent a lot of money buying a diamond ring for his wife, she responded by asking for a divorce, to make things worse he had to pay her a lot of money as divorce settlement. His business partner suddenly pulled out just when the business had just stared picking up and he seemed to have suddenly run into bad luck but he explains that it is at this point of his life that he realised he needed to release and embrace something new. Right after the divorce and the collapse of his business he begun to build up again from scratch but this time with more focus ,with a more detailed plan and a vision for where he was heading with his life ,he made it and is now once again a successful business man ,a better father  and generally a better person than he ever was.

Looking at the world today (a mother looses her young son to the bullets of robbers , a father finds his little girl defiled and robbed of all childhood innocence , a woman is battered and scared for life by a man she thought loved and cared for her , a young man releases his first love was only a hit and run or  a country releases it has been betrayed by the leaders it elected, with so much hope for a better future) you realise that without the capacity to release you will never find joy and peace that you may so much need and desire . At some point in our lives and in the lives of those we love we realise that we have been wronged and find ourselves tempted to hold on to past hurts and disappointments but this is like a cancer in our body and will slowly eat us up.

In the words of a French scholar the more things change the more they remain the same , as we open up to a possibility of living a life that focuses on our future prospects and allows our past hurts to heal we realise that this world can be a better place ; that concern and a genuine interest in the well being of others can be nurtured allowing one to learn to release and can continue to exist in a World that seems unexplainable.