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Self-esteem: How You Value Yourself

When you lack self-esteem you feel weak and helpless. You are uncertain of the value of anything you do. You don’t trust yourself and you do. You don’t trust yourself and you don’t trust other people’s reassurances. You’re unsure of who you are. You may find it hard to make satisfying friendships. Life gets on top of you very easily.

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When you’ve got self-esteem you value yourself. You trust your judgment. You know what you’re capable of. You respect yourself for what you do and who you are.

When you lack self-esteem you feel weak and helpless. You are uncertain of the value of anything you do. You don’t trust yourself and you do. You don’t trust yourself and you don’t trust other people’s reassurances. You’re unsure of who you are. You may find it hard to make satisfying friendships. Life gets on top of you very easily.

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If you have grown up feeling loved and secure you are more likely to have a high sense of self-esteem. You will have grown up with a true sense of who you are. You will have learnt how to trust the reactions you get from the outside world. Your picture of yourself will be accurate. You will feel secure.

Many people, however, grow up without a secure sense of who they are. As children they may have struggled to be what someone else wanted. They may be what someone else wanted. They may have given confusing messages about what they should and shouldn’t do. They may never have been praised for the things they achieved. They may never have been given helpful criticism. Love may always have been conditional on doing what someone else wanted them to do.

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Test Your Own Esteem

Place a thick against any of the following points that apply to you.

When you were a child did people often:

□ admire you for things you hadn’t done?

□ praise you for qualities they saw in you but you didn’t feel you possessed?

□ sometimes praise you and sometimes blame you for doing the same thing?

□ laugh at things you’d made or done?

□ compare you unfavorably with brothers, sisters, or other children?

□ nag at you to do better?

□ say they were disappointed in you?

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  1. ceegirl

    On January 17, 2010 at 12:26 pm


    I value myself anyway no matter what people say.

  2. lillyrose

    On January 17, 2010 at 12:58 pm


    Really helpful article. I had very high self esteem as a child but as I hit my teens and adulthood I don’t seem to to be able to get it back and still have very low self esteem. Your article helped me understand why.

  3. Christine Ramsay

    On January 17, 2010 at 3:10 pm


    This has explained a lot. I have never been a confident person. Now I know why. Thank you for a very interesting article.

    Christine

  4. LoveDoctor

    On January 17, 2010 at 3:37 pm


    This is a great article with good and funny images especially the first one. “You only date who you think you can. You have elaborated on some very good points regarding self-esteem. Even though parents want the best for their kids, they can sometimes give us mixed or confusing messages. I was praised a lot as a kid and at the same time compared to my brother. It doesn’t really bother me anymore because I am aware of the talents and abilities that I possess and that I am a valuable human being. So my self esteeem is normal. Society and even guys can bring down a woman’s self esteem. In the business world, other people who feel threatened by your success can bring it down as well.

  5. ken bultman

    On January 17, 2010 at 4:59 pm


    Pretty popular subject lately. I don’t consider self esteem. Whether I like myself or not has little effect on how people react to me.

  6. CHAN LEE PENG

    On January 17, 2010 at 11:32 pm


    It depends on individual perception and morality value.

  7. papaleng

    On January 18, 2010 at 2:12 am


    I agree with Chan, factors do constitute to one’s outlook, Family upbringing and environment counts a lot. But my dad, has a way to uplift our self esteem, He used to say. Go look at the mirror if you want to see a handsome man..

  8. albert1jemi

    On January 18, 2010 at 8:35 am


    this is amazing information

  9. revivor

    On January 18, 2010 at 8:50 am


    really love the pics – some laugh out loud moments!!
    (the guy on the shetland!!)

  10. Starpisces

    On January 18, 2010 at 11:06 am


    for me, my feelings are like the roller coasters… at one point very high, but then low again..

  11. monica55

    On January 18, 2010 at 1:35 pm


    An excellent article, Ghazali. And I’ll add that a low self esteem will be better developed when the person does more for himself, rather than depend solely on other people to make him / her feel good.
    Monica.

  12. Midie

    On January 19, 2010 at 10:01 pm


    Great article

  13. taira

    On January 20, 2010 at 7:01 pm


    I like the topic and your writing style!

  14. ShaFar

    On January 20, 2010 at 11:27 pm


    It can lead to depression. Great article, well written.

  15. selfesteem

    On December 10, 2010 at 10:42 am


    I was browsing and came across your post..I love the pic :) Very interesting topic … I am fan of Self Esteem Affirmationstoo..I am also promoting my site about self esteem..

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