Send the Right Message

You may not want to believe it. You might say you don’t care. Yet you can’t escape the fact that where ever you are, where ever you go and whatever you do – at home, at work or at play, in your car, at the mall or walking the street – people are watching you. What do they see? What do they hear? What are you telling them about yourself? What is your message?

Here are some suggestions for sending the right message.

Keep it real

It might be appealing to leave people guessing. I’ve read that it is sexy to create and maintain a bit of mystery in a relationship. But to accomplish that you must first be absolutely sure of who you are, what your value, what you want and what you are willing to do to get it.

If you buy into the belief that a bit of mystery is good and sexy even, don’t be a mystery to your own self. While everyone else is wondering who you are, you must have no doubt about the answer.

So, who are you? Do you really know? Are you comfortable and happy with the person you think you are? If not, who do you want to be, why and how do you plan to make the transition?

Bear in mind that while you are changing and reinventing yourself, you can still be sending a positive message – a message that is true to the evolution you’re going through. Make it the message about who you are or who you are becoming. Make the message real.

Keep it simple

I’ve heard people describe themselves as “complicated” and maybe they are. You can be a complicated person if you hold on to troubles from your past, regrets, anger, bitterness, heartache and fear. You can also consider yourself to be complicated if you are easily swayed by trends, popular consensus, criticism and flattery. You are a complicated person if you have no idea of what you want to achieve in life, no ambition, no dreams and you are not the least bit passionate about anything.

Maybe “complicated” doesn’t cut it anymore for you. Are you ready to simplify your life and by extension, your message?

• Relieve yourself of the unhealthy baggage you’re carrying around. Deal with the issues one by one and move on.
• Re-define what is important and take steps to help you live happy and fully in the present
• Identify a goal or a dream you would like to achieve

Simplifying your life in this way will open your eyes to the blessings that surround you. It will also liberate you to embrace opportunities and to be hopeful for the future. And that’s the kind of message your want to send.