Smile Through The Pain
by Facing the illness of a child can be hard but the rewards that come with it make it worth the pain.
Someone has to hold it all together. In my home, I am the duct tape. I don’t always want the job but I am best designed for it. Another lesson I learned is that no one can smile all the time but having kids you love sure helps you help him or her through things. The kids are my joy, my smile, and my daily reason to get out of bed.
The next lesson is that I will have to learn to live for myself as well. I write to deal with life. I write to set myself free. There is a little part of me that has never let the writer disappear behind Mother. A parent must remember that they will have to keep getting out of bed even if….
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All parents know that each of their children need to be special, but the parents of a special needs kids really have to remember it and enforce the concept into their daily lives. I cannot forget the child who claims she is the closest to normal in the family.
Simple facts must be dealt with. Movies, songs, and books that don’t bother other people and may have nothing to do with your family’s problems will get you all turned around for no apparent reason. You may cry, get mad, or shut down with out really knowing the why of it. For a while, know your triggers and try to avoid them. Good luck with that.
Your family, in-laws, and friends may care or may not. They are not always going to get it and you will get sick of trying to get them to understand. It is ok. If they love you and the children, then they will take you as you are. If the house is a mess, so what. If the phone goes unanswered for a while, they will respectfully keep trying and will be there when you are ready.
If you need more help then tell them. If you need to get on the muck boots and deal with the crap your self then do it and do not feel guilty. Some of us are like that. We have to have control over what we can control. And for the record, you can’t control the illness so life’s details are all you may have.
I can boil it all down to this: You will love them now so they know it IF. You must take care of you in order to take care of them. You have to let them stand tall for as long as their heart, in any way they can. You will have people come into your life and others who leave but through it all, know you are not alone.
Smile as they smile for you, even when you both know pain.
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Post Commentcutedrishti8
On October 11, 2009 at 7:21 am
great peice of work…Nice topic to write about child care
martie
On October 11, 2009 at 7:47 am
You brought tears to my eyes. I am praying for your family and your daughter Tammy.
ceegirl
On October 11, 2009 at 9:59 am
I will pray for your family.
Moses Ingram
On October 11, 2009 at 6:13 pm
It is sad when a child is sick.
Jane Benitez
On October 11, 2009 at 9:33 pm
When your child is sick it is heartbreaking. I will pray that God will give you and your family the strength to face each day.
Christine Ramsay
On October 12, 2009 at 8:51 am
A sad but such an inspirational piece, which could be so helpful to people inyour situation. I know now how my mother must have felt when my baby brother had a brain haemorrhage which left him partially paralysed for life. You have no choice but to be strong for your children. I really admire you.
Christine
Jane Jane
On October 18, 2009 at 10:49 am
sad.=(
Jenny Heart
On October 18, 2009 at 11:37 am
My eyes filled up to with tears. My prayers be with you.
fishfry aka Elizabeth Figueroa
On October 18, 2009 at 2:35 pm
Wow, a very heavy story, with a many messages along it way. God be with you as you travel your journey, and I will always remember, to smile through the pain.