Sticks and Stones Now Words Alone
by How many times have you said something to someone in this society and had that person or someone take offence to it. Report you for saying it but in a way it wasn’t meant? Have you lost respect due to some misinterpretation of a compliment you gave? Have you lost a job because you gave an innocent compliment that was reported as a sexist act or sexual harassment? When this happens doesn’t it leave you feeling violated and raped mentally and emotionally?
Twenty and thirty years ago most of us were still teaching our children “Sticks and Stones can break our bones but words will never hurt us,” as we were taught by our parents, while those children decided they would make others pay for their “butt hurt” feelings, as a friend of mine puts it. Now the whole world is feeling their violated and raped mentality!
It didn’t take much for these children now grown in years, but not mentality wisdom, to be offended. Anything that didn’t go their way, anything they didn’t receive that they believed they were “entitled to,” or any mistreatment they perceived they received whether real or imaginary they set out to rectify no matter the cost as long as they get what they think they want. Sadly enough many never live happy lives because they really don’t know what they want out of life, once they obtain what they thought they wanted they find no happiness. Yet everyone else suffers and pays for their “expressing themselves.”
Our grandparents were largely to blame for a great deal of this just as we are for allowing it to continue to worsen! We know our children are more intelligent with each generation but intelligence alone does not make a great and happy life! We the older people have years of actual experience in a great many things that the young people can not comprehend! I say we because if your family is anything like mine it’s a broken up mess. One or more parent an alcoholic or drug addict living in different places if not different states all together, sisters and/or brothers alcoholics and/or drug abusers, thieves, liars, etc. and while they chose the path they are now on we allow excuses for these bad choice behaviors to continue with their children and so on. Where will it all end? And if you are one of those parents who say “not my children,” or “it’ll never happen in this family,” you are wrong! Look again and look closely at your children and grandchildren. What are they saying? What kind of friends do they “hang” with? Just where do they “hang” and what are they doing while “hanging?” What style of clothes do they wear today? When speaking to an adult do they speak with respect? Do they speak to one another respectfully? Do you as a parent or grandparent take the time to communicate with them? Not lecture them but really communicate with them! Listen to them and their logical sounding reasoning then discuss the pros and cons of things. Do you even know the families of the friends your children/grandchildren “hang” with? I’m not talking about how clean or dirty their house or car might be; you should never judge a book by its cover! I’m talking about what kind of people they are inside! And do they spend time with their children or grandchildren? Or are they the “I’m busy right now I’ll do it later type?” Do you ever listen to your children’s friends talk? Are they always referring to being home alone or having a babysitter? If so does your child spend a great deal of time in a friend’s house where there is no real adult supervision? If so you’d better ask yourself if this is proper and consider whether you would want other children in your home while you are out. It would be wise to contact the parent(s) and get to know them and find out if they in fact even knew your child had been there.
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