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Taking Back Control of Your Life

How not to be a bad person while taking back control of your life from the toxic people in your life. Solving the problem of toxic family, toxic friends, toxic co-workers, and how not to get caught in their clutches in the future.

I’m not quite sure how it happened, but one day it hit me – I had lost control of my life, and I was not happy.  I felt as though every last minute of my time, every last emotion, every last thought, and every last dime I had was assigned to someone else besides me who had something they wanted to do with it.  All I knew for sure was that it wasn’t me.  I sat down and started to think about my life and what I was having a problem with and decided it was all the toxic people and relationships I allowed in my life.

Toxic Work

It happens to everyone, we get a job that pays the bills, but doesn’t emotionally satisfy.  Nothing wrong with that.  But when we reach the point that the only reason, and I mean ONLY reason we get up in the morning and trudge off to work is the money…it’s time for a change.

What is harder to change is when you have to deal with toxic people at work.  And deal with them you must.  Allowing a toxic person to poison your life through your job will take years off your life.  And there are a lot of people who get off on just that.

That I know of, the only solution to a toxic boss is to transfer or quit.  I wish I could recommend any of the numerous strategies that others recommend to work with that type of boss, but I just don’t think a job is worth that kind of emotional investment.  Especially when you’re tearing yourself up inside to get through the day.

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Dealing with toxic co-workers is a bit easier than dealing with a toxic boss.  But it will still require just as much of a backbone.  I have found that it usually manifests itself as a lack of cooperation from the other employee.  If they are your direct underling, you need to address any lack of cooperation immediately.  Failure to do so will only encourage them to continue to be uncooperative.  Document each and every infraction, spell out what the problem was, and what the solution is and make sure the employee and your Human Resources department get a copy of this.  Do not hesitate to fire an uncooperative employee after sufficient warning.  It is your responsibility as their superior to solve the problem.

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