One of the easiest ways to awaken your feeling for your spouse is to go through picture albums together.  If you have old video’s of vacations, special events, or even your wedding watch them in a quiet room with out disturbances.    Silence is a good way to allow your mixed emotions to have clarity.  Many marriages are in trouble becuase the couples become two strangers living together instead of two best friends.  The husband has his agendas, and mommy has her agenda’s as well.  You have to spent time together in order to make your marriage grow.  People wonder why intimacy fails and the romance leaves.  The reason why is becuase couples no longer laugh together or spend time together.  The husband doesn’t hug or kiss his wife like he use to.  Likewise the wife feel motivated to do special things for her husband any more like fix him breakfast or fix his plate for dinner.  Dinner turns out to be a rodeo every man for themselves.  Whoever cooks fixes themselves a plate and walks away into thier private room and shuts the door.  Dinner is a time to bring the family together.  Dinner is a time to share each others goals, and talk about things that went on during the day.  Slowly the thought of being intimate with an aquaintance of yours starts to play in your head.  Since you no longer talk to each other you find other people to talk to during your day to day activities.  The more feelings and thoughts you share the more you start to get drawn in to this person.  You even start to believe you will be happier with this person because you have more in common with them than your spouse.  This is an illusion.  The grass isn’t greener on the other side its greener where you water it the most.  If people would spend time watering their marriage they wouldn’t have time to look at other peoples grass.  Couples need to go on regular dates without the kids.  Some couples are so use to having kids around they don’t know what it feels like to go on a date.   Before the wedding you couldn’t dream of not going on a date with your partner, now that you are married you can’t dream of going on a date.  Something is wrong with this train of thought.  You need to tell each other I love you more often and try to never go to bed angry at each other.  You  never know what your last words may be to your spouse.  Imagine the last thing your wife hears is I hate you after you go racing out the door.  What if you never make it home to apologize.  Couples should try to go to bed together as much as they can.  Usually the wife goes to bed alone while the burnt out and fed up husband goes surfing on the internet for an answer to thier problems.  Many men become addicted to porn solely becuase they let their marriage slip away.  The lost the romance they had for their wife so they believe.  Simply going on a vacation or spending a romantic evening together can rekindle thier flames for each other.