These are the best things you can say to your child/student. These best choice words are thus important as they’re special gifts you can give them to establish a healthy mutual belief, understanding, while strengthening your relationship with them. They’re special gifts you can give them to develop their self-esteem.
This is a continual discussion of my previous article Growing in Positivism.
Parenting and teaching are both painstaking and challenging jobs. When it comes to lecturing, teaching or instructing, not many of us know how to communicate effectively and thus both parties have trapped into a communication gap with their children or students. The bad communication has led to many social problems among the children, youngsters and students.
There are some things not recommended to say in front of your child/ student. Don’t label them as “stupid” as this tantamount labelling leads to damaging their confidence and self-esteem. Extended calling of “stupid” can lead them to a negative thought, causing them to question their own intelligence.
It’s very common to hear phrases like “How many times I told you not to do so”, “You shouldn’t have repeated that”, “I told you not to do that”, “You should have listened to me”, “Why are you so stupid?” and etc. Do you know that these phrases can unconsciously hurt the feeling and self-esteem of your child/student?
When you keep on repeating the word “always”, it shows to them that you’re criticizing or judging them by not given them a chance to improve their mistakes, behaviors or wrongdoings.
It’s very natural that your child/student cares much of their appearances. This is particularly obvious among the teenagers, so you should avoid phrases like “Why is James/your brother so handsome and you aren’t?” or “Why is Jane/ your sister so pretty and you aren’t?” These remarks will definitely damage their social confidence, courage and self-esteem.
It’s not advisable to say “I don’t love you and I regret having you as my child/student.”These choices of words can kill their feelings, as they may feel unsecured, unprotected and unwanted. When they take these words seriously, they may have separated themselves from a group of people. Instead, they should be brought up in an environment of love, acceptance, mercy, and tolerance.
Labelling your child/student as “weak”, “hopeless”, or “useless” should be avoided. This means that you’re estimating them on their emotions which are not helpful enough to establish a good communication between both of you.
Instead, your child/student should be encouraged with positive affirmation to help developing their self-esteem and confidence. These best choice words are thus important as they’re special gifts you can give them to establish a healthy mutual belief, understanding, while strengthening your relationship with them.