There is No Better Victim Than a Victim Herself

I cannot believe my subjects lately, but let me share this article with you.  I choose to talk about this from some previous experiences I had with friends or family or even person not even related to me.

I have no education or bachelor in psychology but my friend has one she even has a doctorate so often I do talk with her and share my friendship experience with her especially when I try to analyse such attitude versus the others.  I always thought myself that I would not have done that similar act, I would have done it another way or said it another way. Like everyone here reading this article, I know you have done it also.

What amazes me the most is when someone denied so strongly her fault, she knows she is wrong we have all the proof but still she denied it and makes you feel she is the victim?  That is where I took my cool title.   Please do not try to change their mind it is hopeless.  No one could.  They are victim and they cannot change in any way.  None of us could understand them. That is the way it should be. Why?

There are many reasons for it, to get attention, maybe they cannot tell the truth some person have this problem it is a disorder they cannot tell the truth no matter how they try there is always a lie pending at the end. It could also be by defensive, some person have been attack too many time in their life they lie to defend themselves. Some have esteem problems; they are always negative so by denying it does serve their own desire. And believe me the more you talk with those persons the worst it gets. Do not try to argue with them, it is helpless you won’t win; you might find yourself doubting and having suspicious and maybe find yourself being the victim.

A friend of mine has learnt that lately, something happened between her and another friend, some argument came along the discussion.  My friend decide not to talk to her on the internet for a while so because of that a scam was made to have my friend thought that the other had an accident.  That is where I come, my friend called me to see if I could so some search cause the person was living here close to Montreal and my friend was in Europe so I did. For about 4 hours and more I try to contact the police and hospitals, and then suddenly I decide to call her house. Oops! She answered, suddenly all lies came through to me but I figure it out from all the answers I got it was only to be pity, she was a person in need of affection and she could not accept to be put away.  So she invented that scam.  Now what is happening, she denies it and because of that she has lost the most valuable thing in the world a true friendship.

Do not try it is helpless, once more I repeat myself, keep you away from those persons, not because they are not good person.  But much more because they do not know themselves how they are.  They need help, find them help and if they change yes you can come back, but if you keep the relationship you will be destroy as well.

Do not be the victim of a victim!