There is not one person exempt from experiencing painful moments. We are living and while we are living we are exposed to a vast array of individual souls. Each one of our births marks the beginning of an adventure. At the core this adventure is singular and private (see poem Private Wars)

Many new age believers will tell you karma is real and what you give to the world is what will be returned to you. This would be something I could believe in if it wasn’t for those people that experience many painful experiences alone. Is it fair to assume we also carry the repercussions of another lifetime? If so that would leave room only for the believer to believe *they did a lot of bad they cannot remember* and greater *no opportunity to ever change what is past, and therefore left to receive experiences of pain and misery all the while giving those around them the best experiences. Let me just say “this is the best description of Hell yet” …and resembles my own personal life.

With that all said I want to lay a foundation for this article by stating one truth of my own, and from this truth I draw from I will reveal to you seven reasons not to get even.

Truth – I Don’t know why we as humans experience pain

Here is a simple reason that is made way to complex. The best reason to not get even with someone when you have experienced hurt from them (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual) is because NO ONE likes to be hurt. If we can understand this truth that there is not one person in this world who likes to be hurt we must also too understand (we must be doing a whole lot of what we don’t like)

Let’s break down that sentence by looking at the word hurt as the character in a movie. Hurt is big or small, loud or quiet, the villain or the victim. When we choose to get even with someone we choose the role of Hurt. If we follow the reason back to why and really see that No one likes to be hurt we will suddenly see Being Hurtful to another actually is agreeing to play the role of Hurt. No, you won’t be the one to experience the hurt you will BE HURT ITSELF.

“it matters which role you are”

You will never be done getting even.

Hate and Love are not the same but are alike night and day, up and down, war and peace. Please take notice how these couplets are opposing one another. Yes opposites. But there is however a unique element these opposites have a common bond these couplets share; to say it simply they eliminate each other. Each cannot be while the other is present.  Revenge is hurtful and if we make a distinct agreement that our pain will never subside until we cause those who hurt us- to hurt, understand, or feel what we felt we will not eliminate hurt. Hate cannot eliminate hate, and Love cannot eliminate love. Night cannot eliminate night and day cannot eliminate day, and so on…

The truth is getting even will not help you feel better;

Getting even doesn’t make you feel better. Getting Even with hurt is a part of hurt and cannot eliminate hurt.

Getting even will not take away the hurt you have experienced. It is wise to seek choices that assist you in arriving at the destination you truly desire to arrive at, and that is to not hurt.

Here is a physical example. If I were to ask you to pinch your own arm would you? ..if you would, would you let go when it began to hurt?  I hope so and I hope you know why you would let go.

If you find yourself in an experience that is hurting you it is best to let go of the experience. Seek to surround yourself with people who add more love into your experiences.

“Keep away from those who seek to harm you”

In summary the truth still remains I don’t know why we experience hurt, perhaps it’s for reasons as simple as “we as a human race have not yet experienced the consequences on a world wide scale of hurt or love”. We as a human race stand divided with those who hurt and those who do the hurting. We need more willing to love and do the loving.

Maybe then we would realize Love can eliminate hate by letting go of it, and Love cannot ever be even with hate.