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Unsolicited Advice

Some people are annoyed to those who always give unsolicited advice. Why they can’t wait to be asked before sharing their solutions to the problem?

A person who always give unsolicited advice is often misunderstood by others. Well, if that person who give unsolicited advice is close to us, we might appreciate it but even then, not all the time that we need that kind of advice specially if we don’t ask for one.  There are people who just share their problems because they want someone to listen to them, they just need an outlet of what they feel but not necessarily that they need advice of what to do unless they will ask  for it.  Some people who give advice are very pushy, they would tell you to follow it because that is the best thing to do  to solve the problem and this situation  is very annoying. I encountered some people who are doing this. They will give their advice of what is the best thing to do even if you are not asking them. They are very insistent that you will do what they say because  you will regret in the future if you will not follow their advice.

It’s hard to deal with people who are like this. It is very annoying when somebody would tell you what to do specially if that thing is not what you want to do. There are those who are really sincere in sharing their solutions to the problem but not all the time it fits to the need.  Some are sharing their unsolicited advice just to be recognized without thinking that this might turned off the interest of people to be with them.  In my opinion, giving unsolicited advice is kind of rude specially if we are not close to the person we are giving the advice.  If they are just  mere acquaintance, we better shut our mouth and wait for the time they will need our help.

There are people who can tolerate to listen to the advice they don’t need but there are those who would voice out and say, they don’t need that advice and that is very embarrassing to the one who share the advice unsolicited. This is why, we must put ourselves in a safe ground in giving advice to people. We will wait for them to ask our help  to find solution to their problem so that we can not offend somebody and we will not be offended also in return. Unsolicited advice is not always welcome by all people. It might work for others at certain times.

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  1. BruceW

    On January 28, 2011 at 12:27 pm

    Surely the answer is to tell the person that you don’t actually want help solving the problem but just want them to listen. Repeat it over and over until they get the message and stop.

  2. djbtol

    On January 28, 2011 at 8:49 pm

    Thanks for sharing. Looking at your recent articles, I was wondering if you just got home from a family reunion?

  3. lisaking

    On January 31, 2011 at 10:59 am

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  4. Lola

    On February 9, 2011 at 6:54 pm

    It has been a couple of years since my sister in law wrote me some unsolicited advise…did not tell me, wrote me. I felt offended because it was criticism and she was telling me/ not suggesting what to do and if not that I would regret it. (related to what type of discipline I should use with my son).
    Well she got mad at me for not liking the advise and since then she not only ignores me but is totally detached to my son, who is her nephew. Every time I see her is extremely uncomfortable, but I try to remain the same and say hello. She only answers whenever she feels like, but would does not care a bit about any relationship at all with me. I guess that justs show me that she was not giving such advice from the heart.

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