Ways to Stop Feeling Guilty

Guilt is something that we all feel and it stops us from being productive sometimes. We feel guilty for enjoying a chocolate Sunday or we feel guilty for traveling when our mate is at home. We feel guilty that we have to deny a date. We feel guilty because we say “yes” to a bad date. We feel guilty when someone compliment us. Guilt is a feeling that traps most people from being their best. Every time you have to say “no” you feel guilty. Every time that you say “yes” you would also feel guilty. You don’t feel comfortable saying these things to people so you end up saying what you don’t mean. You say “no” when you should have say “yes” and you say “yes” when you should have say “no” to people. You beat yourself up over it the entire week because you say “no” to a gift that you would love or you say “yes” to a date that you rather not go on.

Things like this keep you from being happy. You end up saying the wrong things or avoiding things when you should accept it. I once met a very wealthy man and I say “no” because I thought that I didn’t deserve him. I always think that some other women would deserve him better. I left when I should have dated a wealthy man. Feelings like this keep me from being successful in life. It’s like having a wealthy boyfriend is out of my comfort zone. I was used to the not so wealthy boyfriend. I was treated nicely but I didn’t feel right. I guess I felt more comfortable being treated normally. I think it has a lot to do with feeling guilty because you’re lucky. You have more luck than other people. Many people have this guilt syndrome and it hurts them sometimes. It makes them say the things that they would later regret. You have to work it out within yourself in order to stop this guilt feeling.

You can remind yourself that you need to be assertive and say “no” when you need to say “no” and say “yes” when you need to say “yes.” This way you will not be angry at yourself later on. If you don’t want to go on a date with someone, you can find ways to avoid him instead of saying “yes” and then regret it later on. You can say that you’re busy or that you have a boyfriend so you don’t have to say “yes” to the men that you don’t want to date. If you have a hard time saying “no,” you should not put yourself in a situation where you have to say “no.” almost everyone feel strange when they have deny someone else. It’s a difficult thing to do and we end up feeling guilty about it. It will help you more if you don’t put yourself in difficult situation where you have to say “no” to people. You can also remind yourself that being assertive is your right and it will make you happier than being passive. You can also tell yourself that it’s “ok” to be loved, to be spoil, or to be the best without feeling guilty. There are people out there who can’t accept compliments or can’t accept that people love them. They feel guilty for nice treatment. This is because they’re used to poor treatment from the past. It has something to do with your past too. You will feel comfortable with how you have been treated in the past.