What You Should Know Before Moving in with Your Lover
by You might be unpleasantly surprised with your lover’s personal habits after moving in together.
You want him all the time.
You want her all the time.
Hot steamy love… all the time… Grrr…
The next logical step seems to move in together… do you think?
Couples should consider how well they know one another as well as your individual self. The familiar saying, “there’s always two sides to the coin,” thus the saying constitutes this kind of situation. Too often couples plunge into “shacking up” without knowing about their lover’s other side… their imperfections, pet peeves, values and expectations versus one’s own.
Ask yourself what could you reasonably compromise, let go and maybe, overlook? You might think I’m trying to scare you. Well, I am. There’s many of us who did that, done that and know that if we did things differently, the outcome would have been better. But then, there’s those couples who did that, done that and have proven the move together actually strengthened their relationship… some into marriage.
Here are some things you should consider about your lover before you move in (not listed in any particular order):
- mannerism: loud, rude
- debt
- children
- obsessed ex
- still married?
- health issues
- pet peeves
- smoking
- drinking
- criminal history
- illegal substance use
- illegal activity
- warrants
- hygiene
- housekeeping
- sleeping habits
- friends
- family
- pets
Ask yourself, based on your personal values and beliefs, can you deal with his/her________? Should you compromise your values and beliefs?
Most reasons for why relationships don’t last is that they lack MUTUAL COMMUNICATION. If your relationship isn’t one of this nature, it might be better to scrap the idea of moving in together. Be independent people as you are now… having fun, enjoying what it is you both do.
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Post CommentSharif Ishnin
On December 3, 2010 at 1:38 pm
It\’s never easy to find that right partner. What I understand is that nobody is really perfect. Overcoming each others flaws are the biggest challenge in a relationship. As in the words of Rumi,\”The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the heart.\” Good write.
Bruce Officer
On December 4, 2010 at 6:00 am
And sort out how you are going to share the household bills too
aimsteel
On December 4, 2010 at 11:28 am
Being single could have been stressful with all this and that stuff in life, how much more when moving in with someone else I don’t know yet. It is very essential to really have compromises on everything including each others’ personality. And yes, mutual communication is indeed a good factor to always consider for a relationship to last a lifetime.
Jerry Bradford aka Jerry Atrixx
On December 10, 2010 at 2:12 am
Well written.