1. Nonlinear Dynamics and the Indefinite Future

Nonlinear dynamics is dynamics that manifests extreme sensitivity to the initial or prevailing conditions of the system exhibiting it. How extreme this sensitivity is may be appreciated when it is apprehended that the prevailing conditions of the system may vary by even an infinitely small or infinitesimal magnitude and still it will alter the dynamics of the system to produce an observable effect. Because the effect is disproportionate to the cause, systems exhibiting nonlinear dynamics are characterized as being more than the sum of their parts. That is, nonlinear dynamical systems exhibit behavior, as a whole, that none of their parts or subsystems (that may possibly also be emergent) do. Accordingly, understanding of the parts, to the extent that this is at all possible, requires understanding achieved through aperture of the whole. Nor are nonlinear dynamical systems the exception in nature. On the contrary, they are the rule (Barrow 1991: 123-125).

Nonlinear dynamics becomes increasingly relevant as we advance into the indefinite future. In accord with the characterization of systems exhibiting it as being more than the sum of their parts, nonlinear dynamics teaches us that the indefinite future does not and cannot amount to the mere sum of short-term futures (Stewart 1995: 111-112). Rather, the indefinite future must instruct the efforts of each generation if those efforts are to amount to the indefinite future.  Failure to do so and de facto constructing the indefinite future through the mere addition of short-term futures would foster the incidence of needlessly numerous and possibly fatal disruptions to the economy of man and to human civilization (such as it is).This would transpire because we would then be neglecting cumulative causes and their effects from the distant past that may make the next step taken, even in the short-term, qualitatively different from even the near past (Velasco 2011: 66).

2. Our De facto Algorithm for Constructing the Future

Unfortunately, this algorithm of constructing the indefinite future through the mere addition of short-term futures happens to be our de facto algorithm for constructing the indefinite future. This is in large measure due to the demand of mainstream, neoclassical economics that there be no uncertainty in the future. As ecological economist, Charles Perrings (1987: 139-140), writes:

“[T]he greater the uncertainty, the greater the temptation to discount the future more heavily. The more the future is discounted, the fewer the effects that are relevant to the optimization problem and the fewer the data that will be sought in its solution. …”

“The market solution represents an approach to the uncertainty of an evolutionary system that ultimately depends on flexibility of response, and the ability to rewrite the programs [i.e. algorithms] of production that are in part the cause of the uncertainty. That is, after all, what the market is supposed to be good at. But there is a certain irony in this, given that the decision-making models underpinning the approach assume an omnicompetence on the part of the decision maker that makes no allowance for uncertainty. The result is that such models have to be restricted to what has been termed here the environmental short period. They have to exclude surprise. They must be myopic, ignoring the fact that myopic behavior is a magnet for unexpected effects.”

3. The Destructiveness of Our De facto Algorithm for Constructing the Indefinite Future

How destructive this algorithm is of constructing the indefinite future through the mere addition of the short-term future (in the interest of avoiding uncertainty to the future) may be appreciated through the following self-negating sequence: Sustainable logging gives way to agriculture because the latter is less risky and offers quicker monetary returns. By the same reasoning, agriculture gives way to manufacture. Finally, carrying  the reasoning to its ultimate conclusion, manufacture gives way to speculative, financial activities, and institutions (Velasco 2011: 66).

How speculative activity precipitated and visited upon us the recession we are all suffering from by paying attention only to the short-term, risk free future and ignoring cumulative transformation and corruption of information from the past deserves elaboration.

The speculative activity leading to the recession was mediated largely through complex financial instruments called derivatives. These derivatives involve a vertical transformation of information having to do with transactions “stacked on top of each other,” with each transaction transforming “the data of the transactions beneath it on the stack” according to some formula. Through these derivatives,  “a transaction can make money based on how it interacted with the other transactions it referenced directly, while having no relationship to the real events on the ground that all the transactions are ultimately rooted in.” In effect, derivatives only pay attention to immediate, risk-free reward in the future by paying attention only to the immediate past and ignoring cumulative transformation of information (with attendant corruption of that information through cumulative error of transmission deceptively abetted by seemingly minimal and therefore acceptable distortion of information at each step) from the more remote past. Derivatives therefore effect a disconnect between the real economy on the ground and the picture of the economy that emerges at the rarefied heights of finance.

Despite the ravages inflicted on the economy of man by short-term interests, it might be objected by some that the economy of nature also exhibits short-term interests and yet it has managed to survive for nearly four billion years. The answer to this is that, of course, we may always choose to emulate the economy of nature in constructing the indefinite future through the mere addition of the short-term if we are not concerned how many species, including our own, may possibly go extinct in eventually achieving an economy with self-organized criticality. As it is, by de facto being guided only by short-term interests, we have depleted the geological capital represented by fossil fuels accumulated by nature over hundreds of millions of years in just a matter of centuries. In so doing, we have dangerously de-stabilized the planetary climate and effected, through our economic activities, the sixth great mass extinction episode so far sustained by this planet. That the danger to our species from short-term interests is real is evidenced by the book written by astrophysicist and cosmologist, Martin Rees, transparently entitled Our Final Century: The 50/50 Threat to Humanity’s Survival.

4. How to Construct the Indefinite Future

If we are, therefore, concerned to minimize the extinction of species (including possibly our own), then the indefinite future must perforce instruct our activities in the present. That instruction can only come, as per the intelligence above about nonlinear dynamical systems being more than the sum of their parts, through Aristotles’ final cause, telos, or as we know it, Purpose. Further, the purposes that are to instruct our present actions must be collective, long-term, irrevocable purposes such as sustainability, justice and complexity which bear upon the survival of the collective—in this case, the human species. After all, it is the species which is potentially quasi-immortal, not the individuals that compose it.

How instruction of present actions through collective purposes acting as a proxy for the indefinite future may be effected would be through social institutions imposing quantitative boundary constraints on the distribution of resources and of social and economic capital between  and within generations. As concerns sustainable use of resources, how this is to be effected has been discussed in Velasco (2008). This paper marshals research from various thinkers to show that a virtual infinity of qualitative improvement in the human condition may be effected from even finite resources if the indefinite future guided our efforts at sustainability and our resource mobilization practices observed a pulsing mode, in the manner of plants periodically going to stasis in seeds, such that the stasis periods successively lengthen without bound. As concerns justice, the philosopher, John Rawls, has advocated, in his seminal, A Theory of Justice, a maximin decision rule constraining the distribution of resources and social and economic capital between and within each generation in perpetuity (Velasco 2009).

The indefinite future, therefore, need not have an asymmetrical relationship with us in which it is to be de facto constructed by us through the mere summation of short-term futures or interests. It is precisely because we are doing just this that we have imperiled the capacity of this planet to support life. If we are to rectify this state of affairs, then it will be necessary that the indefinite future—through collective, long-term, irrevocable purposes such as sustainability, justice, and complexity compatible with species perpetuation—instruct our individual, short-term purposes. Through such instruction, our individual purposes then become bound with the species destiny, thereby investing our lives with meaning transcending their span.

Otherwise, to pretend that individual, short-term purposes may simply be summed to attain collective, long-term, irrevocable purposes, we find, as with mainstream economic practices that so dominate the affairs of this planet, that we cannot do it. Thus, as concerns justice, it has long been known that the economic measure of allocative efficiency of resources among individuals known as Pareto optimality (in which no one can be made better off without making someone worse off) is not necessarily compatible with a just distribution of resources because competition (which is what develops if individual interests are emphasized) is cumulative. Accordingly, re-distributive measures marring allocative efficiency of resources  must be socially instituted if the collective purpose of justice is to be achieved. Similarly, technological efficiency cannot simply be left to its own devices (no pun intended) at the individual level to achieve sustainability: Jevons’ paradox implies that any efficiency gains achieved at the individual level by any technology will be wiped out at the collective level by increased demand. Accordingly, the collective purpose of sustainability must be independently attained through collective social institution of resource apportioning between and within generations.

(References: Barrow, John D. 1991. Theories of Everything: The Quest for Ultimate Explanation. London: Vintage, 1992; Perrings, Charles. 1987. Economy and Environment: A Theoretical Essay on the Interdependence of Economic and Environmental Systems. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press; Stewart, Ian. 1995. Nature’s Numbers: Discovering Order and Pattern in the Universe. London: Weidenfeld and Nicolson; Velasco, Horacio. 2011. “Nurturing Life: From Economic Dynamics to Economic Semiotics.” Environmental Philosophy. Spring, Vol. 8, No. 1, pp. 63-82; Velasco, Horacio. 2009. “Complexity, Sustainability, Justice, and Meaning: Chronological Versus Dynamical Time.” Cosmos and History: The Journal of Natural and Social Philosophy. Vol. 5, No.2, pp. 108-133; Velasco, Horacio. 2008. “Sustainability: The Matter of Time Horizon and Semantic Closure. Ecological Economics,” 65: 167-176; )

(References: Lanier, Jaron. 2011. “Cumulative Error.” http://www.edge.org/q2011/q11_5.html#lanier)

When Milton’s Satan falls from heaven, he ends in hell. And what does he say to reassure himself? ‘Here, at least, we shall be free.’ And that, I think, is the fate of the old-fashioned liberal. He’s going to be free, but he’s going to find himself in hell.

All those “accidents” were estimated and produced well over a season ago in my annual 2011 Celestial satellite Energy and  I comprehend well why so many prudent individuals use it to strategy for the long run and want me to generate it again. 

So many people daily life have been misused and so many more not guilty humans will connect with with an beginning decline just because they neglect the symptoms. I have been following the moon’s changes since I listened to my beloved Might be  prudent terms of wiseness. As opposed to our childish technological innovation, she realized again then, much more about the Celestial satellite and the celebrities than NASA and all the knowledgeable PhD’s new children on the prevent.

The unwillingness for the clinical group to take my recurring apparent actual estimations is basically absurd and I am so satisfied, through my documents,  more and more individuals are becoming “Cosmic Coders” and more Cosmic Aware.

Expect animals and wildlife soon to experience the effect of a “Supernova Window” ruining their normal GPS seeking for the seashores instead of the start beach and all the intelligent experts damaging their un -evolved well study heads to wonder about it. All I can do is to audio repetitive to my trustworthy visitors and recognize so many newbies are becoming a member of daily and they have no idea of what a supernova screen is all about.

Following the newest extremely cope for my present VIP’s and the community at huge, individuals from all age range are sending us, getting in touch with us to create sure they are element of this new comprehension of  God, the symptoms and the beautiful and all they want to do is to  become a member of the cosmic value and the group.

Their terms of assistance and delights creates us work hard to cause you into a new gentle and The lord’s interstellar  symptom. A supernova screen  does not have to be adverse reader; it does provides some of you the choice to think inwardly, to realize that you may have skipped something that requirements a further comprehension and a new religious strategy  to daily life in common. Mercury guidelines the mind-set too, not only anything and everything that switch (transportation, practice, aircraft, vehicles etc.) thus the choice to think further is provided to you. The individuals and relationships of your previous  will also return, yes you may have skipped something very useful and you are given another opportunity to have a look at it up. You may have been supposing about someone or something and to be able to change your activities, your mind-set can only carry more quality to yourself, your own disadvantages and create considerable success when Mercury lastly changes immediate again.

Remember the Worldwide gear box *Cosmic Rule is The lord’s will, The lord’s simple speech and all I am doing is to change the audio of the areas for you visitors. Operating in balance with any and all planet’s is a sure admission to psychological, economical and religious balance but one must ask to be able to get and this Sudden transportation creates it much simpler for many terrified people to do so…

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Technology offers a wide wide range of different choices to the end person and the social effects of their ownership make the appropriate environment for individuals to controversy their convenience and repercussions. But whether one is a advocate or an challenger of this technical progress, the new actuality presented by the implemented technological innovation surpass the creators’ motives and surfaced into this new “real” community in which interactions change, individuals change information, work or even create themselves as people. As well, word abbreviations, pictures, Exclusive representations of personnel, icon-bars, virtual actuality games or blogs, are some of the several ways with which new technological innovation have changed the way individuals socialize and have maintained to make new subcultures and representations of actuality. The adopters of these interaction methods connect intensely on the everyday living and enhancement of the used method, as it must continue to include things like the developments of other methods and constantly be modified.

Since these lately implemented technology-based methods experience incredible good results, especially among young person categories, their ownership requires possibilities and risks similar to types. Modern technological innovation evangelists support the expansion of technological innovation, along with the comprehensive using these new types of technological innovation, essentially by the whole community, to be able to fulfill the individuals pursuit for interconnectivity and belongingness. On the other hand, competitors of this view recommend that these technical improvements are just another type of “imprisonment” and that will further reduce pleasurable, reduce immediate face-to-face contact, and will make individuals “islands.”

Evaluating the effects of modifying interaction varieties and the progression of additional programs over the modern times, along with how these improvements have changed your comprehension about ourselves, has been the subject of research in a wide range of research. History is full of numerous illustrations of fight and incorporation through which a more innovative functionality was created. Thus, the issue continues to be not to stop the pondering and the judgments so as to avoid the unpleasant “battle location,” but rather to use this judgments successfully and analyze the new technical evolutions under the opportunity that they actually represent the new resources to assess the future effects of present-day individuals praxis.

We must define environment a little differently when dealing with human beings. A human environment may be real, or unreal because of the mind’s capability to generate circumstances, which are facts, but not truths. They are simply instances in time. What is now won’t exist tomorrow! This tells us many things of humanity are illusions created by other human beings. “No person is capable to be king over others.” Their actuality cannot exist forever. Facts, in a state of change, are not a truth, but human existence is consistently in a state of flux, is a truth. The human brain is like a computer, if you put junk in, you will get junk out. A person’s mentality is defined by many factors. Human thoughts are full of his own make believe along with the false notions of those he or she interacts with. This defines a culture. In cases, wishful thinking determines one’s path, but reality rarely enters in his or her mind except when necessary.
Reality and Society are two different things. Society is people in movements, thoughts, and relations with each other within The Creator’s creation. I am using the term “people” loosely. There are prerequisites the human being needs to meet before he or she can qualify as “people.” The real part of the man-beast is his movements, which shows their thinking is not of awareness. “Human tracks” are the facts or the evidence left behind. The lag in the learning curve places man in the future before he has mastered his past. The atmosphere’s high CO2 concentration is merely one track of the humans physical existence. Like all animals – human movements revolve around their environment.

Wow, what a sight! I flew from his chair to find a pen to write this statement down. Throughout the night I found myself reflecting on this statement and the power of words that drove me to action. To skip forward, that is, be tough, must be able to resolve the past, is dedicated to this and have faith in the future. However, this does not mean it is easy.

For many years in a career that I was a prison officer, (yes it’s true! A prison officer), and I remember thinking how many inmates, including some staff members were plagued by his past, fighting in its present and do not believe in its future. Years later, as a mediator, often mediate family conflict, and the past always faced. Instead of being involved in this, many people had two charges in the past. For this reason, it was difficult for them to believe in the future. As mediator in the workplace above situations, I have seen this same challenge, people who defend past problems causing them to withdraw and not be present.

Here are some simple tips for dealing with the past:

Listen to his story. Test the voice of the file for you to read and really focus on listening to what you say and how they offer. Everyone has stories of the past that come up in conversation. In telling the story, you are “independent” of it, or does not end with both hind legs at the time? A good way to tell is by taking note of your emotional state when you tell the story. And pay attention to these stories that run through your mind. The good news is that you can change your story.
Decide to forgive. True forgiveness is a choice! Look at the situations, disappointments and unresolved problems that overwhelm. It may not be able to fix or settle the past has already happened, but you can forgive or settle for the future. And forgive yourself for mistakes he has made to continue the practice itself to blame.
Give the blame. The fault appears to increase the emotional state and, indeed, can damage relationships. See what’s under your control to fix and what is not. Put your attention and action on what you can control.
Rethink and change the language. Instead of saying “I regret not fix things with my supervisor”, say “I hope changing situations and conflicts that may arise.”
As you go every day to take time to reflect on the “past” areas of your life. Take some time to work through listening, forgiveness and guilt. It will change your views, enhance your personal and working relationships and, best of all, help you recover forward in the future.

Scientific advancement should not have a cost. Rather the cost of moving forward scientifically should not be the factor that causes humanity to stall rather than leap forth into the great unknown. NASA was shut down (Chang) due to budget problems now private companies are taking over the reins of scientific growth. Every time a shuttle was launched with it went the knowledge that this is the most advance piece of technology humanity has ever created. Now that money has become an issue the first cut back was our future. NASA had the rare opportunity to study a comet to better understand how life started; however due to funding this scientific venture was cut.

The zeitgeist of the time points to the fact that our world is losing itself. Society today is trying to do too many things at once and is unable to sit down and decided for itself what it wants to do. As long as scientific advancement is seen as a luxury rather than a necessity we will be crawling at a snail’s pace (Bluestein 71). Starting a business is a huge under taking and should never be for the faint of heart. Today’s economic stand point there is always room for improvement. Start up companies rising to the top of business ladders is not a surprise anymore. It is in these companies that science has a chance. Business such as Facebook, Google or even YouTube are thriving companies all relaying on technology to succeed. With NASA being shutdown private companies have taken up the mantel of space exploration. The vanguard of this effort is Virgin. With the naming of their co-pilot for Spaceship 2’s flight things are looking up for the world for scientific advancement (UPI).

Looking beyond ethical and religious issues scientific advancement should not be shut down due to funding. There will be costs and expenses will present themselves, but when monetary issues prevent humanity as a whole from progressing as a species serious thought needs to go into the validity of the system in place. In the novels Jurassic Park and The Lost World the battle between science and money is addressed almost directly. John Michael Crichton’s characters personify the monetary issues of scientific advancement. As an author Crichton has more than enough credibility to write on the subject.

John Michael Crichton was born on October 23rd 1942 in Chicago, Illinois. As a child he wrote articles for the New York Times Travel section to earn money. He was educated at Harvard Medical School. As medical school is expensive and he found himself in a position that he had “To put himself through medical school, Crichton wrote mystery novels under the pseudonyms John Lange and Jeffery Hudson” (Gale). He was married four times and has one daughter. Crichton has a knack for writing about the most controversial topics available to him at the time; be it scientific discoveries that run rampant, artificial intelligences that going on a killing spree or the notion of cloning and playing God. This idea of humans playing God was seen most evidently in Jurassic Park and The Lost World. But taking on the task of questioning humanity’s role in the evolution of the planet could be attributed to Crichton degree in anthropology. Crichton wrote most of his early novels under pseudonyms to remain anonymous due to the sensitive nature of his novels. Having received many awards throughout his lifetime such as Mystery Writers of America Edgar Allan, Association of American Medical Writers award, and Life Career Award, Academy of Science Fiction, Fantasy, and Horror Films he has gained critical acclaim and has had many of his novels turned into movies. Unfortunately in 2008 Crichton lost his battle with cancer ending a much loved career as a writer of both novels and screenplays.

The world of Jurassic Park has not only the issue of cloning and the question of whether or not man has the right to clone but addresses the problem of science vs. money almost directly. In Jurassic Park, cloning dinosaurs and their eventual reanimation into our world is the concern for the major characters. The protagonist Dr. Alan Grant sees the potential of reconstructing dinosaurs and their habitats as a miraculous gift to the scientific communities and to mankind as a whole. However Richard Hammond the CEO of InGen, the company creating Jurassic Park, sees only the money and the fame. Likewise in the BioSyn camp, InGen’s major competitor sees the truth in stealing the dinosaurs and making their own Jurassic Park for monetary gain. The fact that in the world of Jurassic Park the technology and the ability to clone and recreate dinosaurs exist but was only put too practice when the thought of money comes into the fold.

            The Lost World does not go to toe to toe with the science vs. money debate but addresses the dangers of science being used for the wrong reasons. Dr. Ian Malcolm having survived the horrors of Jurassic Park is weary when he hears that there was a second island filled with dinosaurs.  Dr. Ian Malcolm’s fear is based upon his chaos theory: “At the edge of chaos, unexpected outcomes occur. The risk to survival is severe” (Crichton 277). These fears drive Dr. Ian Malcolm to fight for either the destruction of the island or for it to go into the hands of scientists.

            Both novels by Crichton address the idea of science being beat out by money rather directly. In Jurassic Park the battle between science and money is personified into two of the novel’s leading characters: Dr. Alan Grant and Dr. Richard Hammond. Dr. Hammond being of the side of making money: “Face the damn facts, Henry … This isn’t America. This isn’t even Costa Rica. This is my island. I own it. And nothing is going to stop me from opening Jurassic Park to all the children of the world … Or, at least, to the rich ones” (Crichton 200). Dr. Grant is left with a bad taste in his mouth at the thought of dinosaurs being monopolized: “I hate to wait on the money men” (Crichton 63). BioSyn camp also looks at dinosaurs from a strictly fiscal stand point: “Just think about, they will have a park, rides, and merchandise they would be the largest company ever to exist” (Crichton 124).

            The Lost World is a cautionary tale, what science could do if left unchecked. Science has the potential to do great evil or great good. As stated by one of the minor characters “Jesus, if an animal like that gets out… there would be no stopping it… no natural enemies” (Crichton 149). However with the collapse of InGen, BioSyn seems that it should try once again to steal the dinosaurs and monopolize them:

“InGen is bankrupt, its technology lost to mankind. A tragic, tragic loss, as I have said many times on television. But under the circumstances, anyone who finds it again has made a discovery.” (Crichton 82).

 This narrow minded thought process is actually what drives InGen into the ground and costs Richard Hammond his life. Dr. Ian Malcolm sees through the chance of making money and sees it for what it is an incredible scientific achievement that has to be used properly.

            The two novels address the issue of money vs. science in different ways. Jurassic Park gives the role of scientist and entrepreneur to two characters. The Lost World however comes from a stand point of the dangers of unregulated scientific advancement. But in both cases the idea of science needing to be the first concern is evident in the behaviors and dialogues between the characters. The novels however can also be interpreted as looking at it as a science vs. religion stand point. Do we as humans even have a right to recreate dinosaurs? Even if the novels are looked at with this lens the battle between science vs. money will come again.

            Science vs. religion and science vs. business are both touchy subjects. Scientific advancement is tailing spinning as budget cut after budget cut decreasing the funding for research projects. The sorest spot of this battle is the shutdown of NASA. NASA was arguably mankind’s greatest technological achievement and it was shut down because the cost out weighted the gains. In a sense however we may never know what these gains are or could have been with NASA no longer launching space shuttles. As long as money is the number one concern for scientific advancement, we as a race will always be living with one hand tied behind our backs.

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We have all faced bad times in our lives. They are sent to test us. 

To many, how we deal with such times can have a bearing on our future. Let’s say you break-up with a loved one. How you deal with the break-up can affect how you face your future. Dwell on it and the road ahead for the coming weeks or months can be a rocky one.

Why? Because if the split was that bad, it can imprint itself on your mind and you can spend day after day, week after week, month after month going through the reasons why. But do you get any real answer? Probably not, especially if the break-up was where two people still loved and cared for one another but just could not make it work.

I ask myself if I want to face a future of pain and suffering as I struggle to come to terms with a split. Yes it hurts immensely, especially if your affection for that person still exists. The frustration of not making something work, no matter how hard you have both tried, just ends in tears. I’ve been there and it is annoying, frustrating and very sad.

But what about the future? Plying your life into a hobby, your children, a sport or work can often help. It deflects your brain from concentrating on issues that perhaps surrounded your relationship. Whilst it is heart breaking parting from a partner you still love, the best gift you could have given them is the freedom to go and do whatever they so choose. To see who they want and to perhaps love again. 

Whilst that sounds hard to imagine, perhaps looking at it that way will allow you to focus more on your own life and future. I do not have the answers, but I know what works and does not work for me. Whilst I carry sorrow and upset over a split, I also know that I can focus on areas of my life that perhaps need addressing and working on. 

That can only mean a better me. By being a better me, that means I become more aware and prepared for my future. 

Hanging onto painful memories is hurtful only to yourself.

So try not to dwell when you break-up. Yes you will hurt for a day or two. Maybe for a few weeks. But if you love someone you will always carry them in your heart, no matter what the differences were between you. Try your very best to stop thinking about it and them and try and move on as you concentrate on yourself.

It won’t be easy. Usually anything can suddenly remind you of the better times you shared. If anything, try and remember them for the good they did. Everybody hurts at times. But dealing with pain and hurt can make you a better person in yourself – if you focus your energy into yourself.

Bitterness gets you nowhere. Let go and press ahead. Try and get your head in that better place. You do that and time will take care of your broken heart until someone new perhaps walks into your life. You will be richer for it and for them.

Time is usually the best healer. Because time is the future: It is also your future.

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Often we become trapped in cycles formed in previous relationships; family ones as well as romantic ones. We pack and carry the hurt, the burden and the self sacrifices of the past in the same suitcase as the happy memories of love, laughter and good times spent together. When we enter into a new relationship is all too easy to do so with memories and experiences of the past clouding our judgement instead of looking at each new encounter with fresh eyes and an open heart. This isn’t to say that it is a good idea to walk blindly into a new relationship wearing rose tinted glasses with your heart on your sleeve but instead to welcome new experiences without expecting your new lover to behave in the same way as your previous one did.

When you take steps to closely scrutinise your thoughts, emotions, your perceptions of the past you can break these cycles and this will allow you to learn to love and accept yourself just as you, to forgive and release the past and to move on with an open and loving heart. Peeling away the onion like layers to reveal your true centre of awareness, allowing you to live your life authentically.

Until we truly know, trust and fall in love with ourselves how can we hope to share ourselves with another?