Imagine: You’re a free man (or woman), but you can’t be around your loved ones due to a crime that you’ve already paid for. When will society forgive for the mistakes of the past?
Is it true that it is our children who eventually suffer from our mistakes? They are apart of our lives. Our lives affect one another each and every day. This is a lifetime connection.
If a man has done wrong, and paid the price by serving his time should we not allow him to be free? How long will we bound him to his past? How can he let it go when we won’t let him? When we discipline our children, we punish them. No TV, no phone, they can’t even go outside. Once punishment time is over, they’ve been forgiven, and are now allowed to do what they normally do – except whatever caused them to be punished.
That’s how they learn valuable lessons on consequence and forgiveness and also responsibility. If we punish them for life we’re showing them how to hold grudges and not wanting to acknowledge them. Why does society hold grudges against men who are off punishment? They are now supposed to see the benefits of now learning from their mistakes, not having to be taunted by their mistakes, through other people. Withholding certain rights and liberties even the liberty of being around their own children. He’s never hurt them; his punishment did not involve them.
But the children were affected by his punishment. They were unable to see him. He was unable to provide for them, discipline and guide them. His children now need to see their father receive forgiveness so that they too will be able to forgive. If he has finally served his punishment and still isn’t allowed to see his children when he’s done, they will start to hold a grudge. An “eye for an eye” a grudge for a grudge? That’s a viscous cycle!
The man is the head of the family and he is also a human being. It is in our nature to do wrong. We are capable of doing bad and good. The good thing about being human is that you can learn from your mistakes and also help others to learn from your experience. It might seem awkward to say that an ex-sex offender can teach people not to go down that path but it’s true.
Who better knows the outcome of such a violating crime? Who better to explain the guilt and the sorrow that you will feel and how agonizing the repercussions are? He can now also teach his children not to go down the path he went and also protect them from people that are what he used to be. He will have to set an example for them proving that people can change. If he is constantly ridiculed and not allowed his total freedom then his children will not see a point in changing from bad to good. If you’re still going to be punished for being bad when you’re being good then why be good. Your good is in vain!
So let’s stop judging these men especially if they have paid their debt to society. If they are not repeat offenders, then let’s praise them for the change and encourage them keep doing good. We might not like what they’ve done or the pain that they have caused but we can not go back in time and erase anyone’s mistakes. We must forgive them and learn to get along with them. Put yourself in their children’s shoes. He is still their loved one and what hurts him hurts them. We all live together in this world and the only way to get along is to get along.
A father deserves to see his children. He’s never been a threat to them; all he has done is hurt them by being away from them. Let him be free, and restore him his liberties. Allow him to make better judgment, and not judge him because of past ones.