The Circle of Domestic Violence

There is a circle of Domestic violence. Violence is a term that denotes physical abuse. It may come in the form of hitting,slapping,punching,kicking or pushing. I never understood why Americans would kill each other. Do we need to let the punishment fit the crime any longer? The term Domestic violence today means physical,spiritual,mental or economic abuse. These may overlap. People are each unique and special with good and evil traits. People are given free will. We each have a personality which means we have preferences. We do not have to act on all of our preferences. Just because we may be raised in an abusive home does not mean we must behave this way as adults. I never considered myself anyones property except my Creator.

Respect for authority is a good human trait. But policemen and women are tired of seeing so much domestic violence. Most of them believe adults should have more sense than to act this way. Many times it is never reported. And much of the time, what is reported is not the truth. Most women in the emergency rooms are there because of domestic violence. We need to respect our parents even if we do not always agree with their opinions because they gave us life. 

As adults, we do not have to be like them. If our lives are in danger, we have the moral duty to protect, defend self or leave. We, even as children have the right to live elsewhere in a better situation. How sad that research shows most children raised in the foster care system do not do well later in life. Most parents invest many years of time and effort into helping their children become useful adults. They truly love their children and provide food, shelter and clothing for them. People have emotions. Anger is one that tells us something is wrong. When it becomes rage, we are out of control of self. This is dangerous. Thoughts become emotions. Emotions do not have to be acted upon. To incite jealousy in another person is wrong. Jealousy can and does cause many problems and is a learned behavior as is good parenting. Men, women and children suffer when there is domestic violence. Time is wasted and lives may be lost.

The circle of domestic violence is this. Pain is inflicted upon another. Pain comes in the form of physical, spiritual, emotional or economic pain. Then a person asks the self why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve this? How could another person do this to me? Confusion may come. Yet, we allowed this. The accusations come. Look what you did to me. Why did you do this to me? How could you have done this to me? Next, is the makeup time where the mind thinks of only the good in the abuser. It will never happen again. Most of the time, drugs and or excess alcohol are involved. The abuser and abusee get back together and the circle of pain starts all over again.  Help is available. In the form of probation for abusers and fines with education classes. Behaviors that are so negative can and are changed.  Shelters are in most communities even though some of the workers are mean maybe because they have not experienced domestic violence and are just there for a paycheck. Do not blame yourself. Your core worth cannot be replaced if you are injured beyound repair or dead.