Comments on: Why Do Men Rape?

By: lilly

lilly — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 18:19:16 +0000

ridiculus women i ancient history were naked and it didnt make any difference they were raped anywayz

By: Lulu

Lulu — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 05:56:08 +0000

hey R.
you said: “what court would not side with a women in a case of “abuse”… My ex was violent & he made me do it, I went to the police twice, the first time I explained what had happened, the officer yawned & asked me to repeat myself (i had been talking for like 10 minutes). The second time the police came to our house & George told them that if he had soft skin like mine he would have bruises all over his body from where I hit him. You dont know me, but I am the least violent person ever, I seem to be pathetically incapable of even protecting myself let alone hurting someone. You think the police or a judge care or will take the side of the female? cause in my experience they dont. When you’re alone with a guy they can do whatever they want & there will be no consequences for them.

In regard to your last post I do think that the world seems not to understand what being sexist is – I think being sexist is treating one sex differently – so for example female magazines that have ‘down with men – girl power!’ on the cover seems to be okay, but I think if the slogan was reversed to ‘down with women -man power!’ it would be considered sexist. & I had a brief look at angryharry.com

queeny6ks
I understand what you’re saying about women needing to cover up, it makes sense & that would probably be a good preventative measure. But I dont want to cover up completely for someone else. Say for example you love designer labels, but can only afford one outfit, if I walk past you in the street wearing a chanel shirt & true religion jeans do you have the right to take them from me because I have tempted you? Or if you have a high cholesterol, but love fast food – if I eat maccas near you am I wrong because I am tempting you to eat it? I think people have to take responsibility for themselves & their own actions. I agree that if you wear an abaya & a hijab it is less likely you will be raped, but I dont think its fair to say its a females fault they get raped based on their clothes. I choose my clothes based on whatever is comfortable & catches my eye, I love colour & weird things (like beads, or strange shapes/prints etc.)

I was raped by a 21 year old when i was 14, I was wearing loose jeans, boots without a heal & a 3 quarter sleeve, high cut black shirt, no make up, hair tied back – not exactly seductive – though im naturally blonde perhaps that is considered seductive?

Dan – I think you have a point about being sexually aroused by the fear in women. Its strange & freaky, but in my experience that is what appears to happen. Its like the man can get excited by the fact that he is completely in control of the situation (having twice the size, strength & willingness to hurt). And you’re right women can get the blame, people are hesitant to believe women, it seems to be easier for people to deal with if they believe the man. The man that raped me told our mutual friends that I willingly had sex with him & then black mailed him & I threatened to go to the police & say he raped me if he didnt give me money. I had no intention of going to the police, I have not spoken to him since it happened anyway. I dont believe that going to jail would have helped though anyway & I know that going to jail would hurt him & I dont want to have been responsible for hurting him. And rapists, especially child rapists, often get raped in jail. I would hate for me to have put someone in the position where they could get raped. Plus raping someone who rapes someone else to show that raping is wrong?

Dan, also I used to work for medicine sans frontier (doctors without borders) a charity that deals a lot in Darfur – i could not believe the way people, especially women, were treated there. The women are sent out to get food/water because they will normally be beaten & raped where as the men will be killed. I think what MSF do is very significant – if you are not already a supporter check them out

Jodee – I agree rape ruins your life. Its so strange that for a man it is one come, just a come, like nothing. A man will probably come more than 10,000 times in their life (not sure how accurate my estimation is but I guess every day give or take between ages 15-50), so one come is really not very significant. But for a women getting raped will (in my experience) affect you in mainly negative ways for many years – 7 for me so far Im 21.

Brenda – I think thats true – turn on MTV & the video clips would probably have been considered porn 50 years ago (like Rhianna – uhmbuhrella) or think of the lyrics in 50 cent for example songs. I guess as a society we are contributing to these things happening.

peace = good stuff xo Lulu

By: R.

R. — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 19:30:39 +0000

damn you people are soooo stupid. typical women and even more typical men bending over backwards to get their cyber afermations.

angryharry.com

(i'm a guy, so rip away ladies lolz).
good luck to all. you'll need it.

By: Brenda Kay Winters

Brenda Kay Winters — Tue, 26 May 2009 19:22:52 +0000

Have you read my article on Triond about Myths Concerning Rape. Rape has to do with control issues and not sexual pleasure.Small babies and very elderly women get raped and America has one of the highest rape rates in the world. Why? We raise our male children improperly.Many are taught that females are sex “objects” and not humans. It is an under reported crime.

By: jodee

jodee — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 20:25:52 +0000

My opinion is that men will rape for two reasons:
#1. For sexual desire, or to get off
#2. Because they can, they can dominate and control someone weaker than them. Usually losers guys w/o status or nothing to offer females will be more prone to do the behaviour for reason #1. I think rape is one notch below murder that’s how horrific i think it is and if u ever been raped u will agree.

By: dan

dan — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 17:49:40 +0000

There is a lot of ignorance in the article and these comments. Women in Egypt totally covered up are being molested and harassed by men, so it is not the clothing issue. Nuns and chaste women, and little girls and babies get raped. To say there is no physical damage is silly. Rape lacerates tissues, rapists often bite and mutilate the woman, and use objects that inflict torture as that part of a woman's body is extremely sensitive. The rapist often uses the woman's blood as lubricant. Please research what is happening in Congo, and Darfur. The woman is also often severely beaten and choked. Men can masturbte, so why terrorize a woman to get relief? There is more to it, need for brutal domination, fear and hatred of women, and being sexually aroused by fear in the woman.
Women take it seriously because of course men and family will reject them. Society does not give them the skills or right to look after temselves economically They are also psychologically damaged by being hurt. Many will be afraid of any male, and feel worthless and helpless and damaged. This can affect the kind of affection and care they can give to family and everybody thus suffers. Just think that she is hurt and damaged in the body part from which she is supposed to joyfully bring forth new life - her true womanhood. Men care much if their manhood is damaged or destroyed. Why shouldn't women> If thousands of men were being castrated in the Congo the whole world would act, but not for those women. And Darfur, raping girls and then breaking their legs and leaving them in the desert to die? Thank you for the caring men who have written in here - they are the pillars of their communities and their families. In some societies the girl is killed for being raped and the man is not censured. It takes other men to put this straight and support and protect the females

By: jillian

jillian — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 18:02:00 +0000

this is stupid.

your arguments are not at all rigorous.

rape is about will power?

you're ignorant my poor little friend.

By: kate

kate — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:46:15 +0000

“So, in my opinion a rapist in general is not a criminal but a patient who needs a medical treatment rather than any corporal punishment.”
And what about their victims? You want to deprive them of the only thing they can get which is their attacker to be locked up, away from them.

By: mad

mad — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 19:51:20 +0000

No sources? No referenced research? Please people, don't transform "opinion" to fact just because its repeated over and over.

RESEARCH!!! SOURCES!! REFERENCED STUDIES!

Stupid response to a very serious topic. Go and do your homework before clogging this space up.

By: humanrights

humanrights — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 08:27:51 +0000

Bottomline:
Men rape because they are built that way. Instead of debating the issue more emphasis should be put on subduing this disease. Perhaps worldwide female empowerment, family planning so that there are fewer orphans, education for both sexes around this male disease. Women attending Codependent's Anonymous so as to avoid the idea that men are similar to women...don't confuse yourelf and a man...women and men are not the same.
Speak out.
Talk to men about their disease.
Report abuse.
Remind men that this is their issue.
Rape is something no one benefits from. It's cowardly and stupid. It's part of the old school patriarchy that is definitely phasing out. No one is interested in what men bring to sexuality as long as rape is so popular. Surely chemical castration for rapists is favorable.
Don't support art or media that promotes male domination.

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