When that time comes it’s best to already have a healing plan in mind.You’d be surprised how needed information resurfaces to restore you at the most appropriate time. These things are tried and tested, quite common,and can really help the healing process. Sharing this information with the grief-stricken can be like a soothing ointment to settle their soul.

Acknowledge the Grieving Process

As soon as you realize you will be in mourning; acknowledge that it is a process.
We all heal at different rates, in different ways, and some methods work better
for some than others. Remember that we all recover in time as we adjust to the reality.
Crying or tears is expected, to withhold them can prevent the process from beginning.
If it helps to write it down or tell people what happened, do so. Accept the invitation to talk about it when you need to if other loved ones and friends offer their shoulder.
Remember someone you know has been through similar loss and can help. Pray. Remember, “They that mourn shall be comforted”. The Lord Jesus, (the Prince of Peace) promises, “Come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy-laden, and I will give you rest”.

Remember the Good

Remind yourself of the good times with the lost loved one. We choose to either
remember we won’t have anymore good times with the lost or that our life was
full of good times that made happy memories to remember them by. At first
remembering those good times and their good ways and deeds, may bring tears
but as time passes it will begin to bring joy, and comfort you.

Take Your Time

If you or the grieving needs time to not handle details, take it.Appoint a relative or trusted family friend with things like making final

arrangements, phone calls, getting the door, and further conversations about

your loss. Their belongings, possessions, and obligations can be the last thing

to think about. Allow as much time as you require to deal with their property.Those things that are time-dated can be taken care of by other members of the family.

Be Understanding

Try to be understanding. Not everyone will be able to identify with your level of grief.
Some will not know the words to say, allow them to just listen. Remember that getting
upset over the attitude different people may have about you grieving, would only prolong
the healing process. Even some close family members may not deal with the grief the same way as you. We relate to each other differently. Soon you will be on the other
side of grief and be able to comfort others in the same way that you needed it.

Do Something for Yourself

If you have an activity that gives you comfort, or a feeling of accomplishment, continue with it. Don’t feel guilty about keeping your exercise routine, adding swatches to that quilt, watching comedy movies or channels, listening to music or laughing with friends, these things can prove therapeutic. The lost loved one would want you to do things that lift your spirits. Remember the words they wished for you while they lived. They liked to
see you happy. Doing things they were proud of will give you further comfort.

If All Else Fails

If you see time is not gradually helping you to deal with the loss, and days or weeks later still feels like the day the deceased passed, this is a red flag. It’s time now to take other action and different measures. Seek help. Read books on how to overcome grief, take advantage of an employee assistance program benefit to get counseling. Research the internet and communicate with others who were where you are and learn how they finally overcame it. Tell your doctor about it. Ask for a referral to see a therapist. Don’t wait until the grief brings on out-of-character behavior or habits. Refuse to let it cause you to take your pain out on your other loved-ones or friends. Life would only get more

lonely. Seek spiritual guidance.

Recalling these things in your time of sorrow, or sharing this information with someone who is grieving can do the mourner a lot of good. It’s more sensitive when children mourn, especially the loss of parent(s). We really can’t predict how we’ll react to the death of a loved one at any age. The important thing is to move forward with the healing process, and recognize that if you or the grieving person becomes and remains bitter, angry, depressed, irritable, refusing to accept a parent’s new relationship(s) professional or spiritual help may be needed. Grief can hold the victim captive and keep them in bondage. Agreeing to allow themselves to be healed of their pain only says they free themselves, as much as the loved one, so they both can have peace; the kind the lost loved one wished for them when they lived.